Hot Or Not: Separate Bedrooms?

Question

Should married men and women sleep in different bedrooms? What are the advantages and disadvantages?

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Answer 1

I think they should sleep together, they're a couple and not just roommates!

Advantages: Cheapest form of birth control, less likely to invade the other's personal space, no conflict regarding underwear or wet towels left on the floor, decorations reflect the person's own personal taste and not some sort of compromise,
Disadvantages: Takes up more rooms in the house, doesn't promote unity, doesn't demonstrate that sense of togetherness to the couple's children, impersonal, nobody to snuggle up to on a cold night!

This reminds me of old I Love Lucy episodes where Lucy and Ricky would split their bed into two twins when they didn't want to make babies, hehehe...

Answer 2

I believe that married man and a women shouldn't sleep in separate bedrooms, for the most part. The only time I could see a man and a women not sleeping together on a regular basis, is if one has a bad snoring problem. This could be a health risk to the non-snore and keep them up at night. But, even with that, the couple should make the effort to sleep together on the weekends, when they don't have to go to work the next day. There is something bonding about sleeping next to each other. Unless, health reasons prohibit you from sharing a bed, then yes all couple should sleep together.

If you find you need more personal space, then buy a bigger bed. Try a California King--you won't touch each other while sleeping, but you can still cuddle before bed and in the morning.

Answer 3

From the other answers, I don't think mine is going to be very popular, but as I understand it, a lot of very happily married people sleep in separate bedrooms, especially older couples. And, I don't see anything wrong with it.

Some who do so have very different sleeping habits. Some just need the space. Some like the freedom to go to sleep when they want to and wake up when they want to. Some have illnesses or chronic conditions that make sleeping together a real challenge and if either person wants a good night's sleep, it's better to sleep separately.

My wife and I can sleep together, but do to some difficulties that she has experienced in her 50s, we find that we just get more sleep if we sleep apart. I recently found out that my cousin and her husband also sleep in separate bedrooms. My aunt and uncle did in their late life and a few of our close friends do, too. (I kind of like having my own room again!)

Answer 4

All the married people I know who didn't share a bedroom ended up divorced....
Sharing a bedroom is about more than just sleeping in the same place. Sometimes it's the only time my husband and I can talk about important things without the children around.
In regards to the snoring thing-snoring can be a sign of sleep apnea, which can also cause you to stop breathing. Partners who share a bed are tuned in to each other and often one will notice if this happens (my aunt used to have to elbow my uncle so he would start breathing again)

Answer 5

Well, its case to case basis. Possible they are having problems to their relationships
Advantages: Its good for them to sleep separate needs space to avoid argument or hurt each other. They should think and realize what they have done or say to one another. If both side are calm down, after that, they can talk.
Disadvantage : They can't solve the problem, they make it worst and dont want to see or touch each other skin. If they have a children? Obviously they are showing to their children they had a problem.

There are couples, who wants to sleep separate room for a while to miss each other, to recharge (hehehe) so that there's excitement again.....(hihihi)
It can be, that one of them have health problem, like sick and need to sleep separate rooms. The couple should talk about that, because sometimes sick people feel they being avoided and feeling lonely.

It can be the wife should watch the kids and sleep beside if needed.

Answer 6

I like the idea of separate bedrooms. Particularly if one of the partners is a fitful sleeper, an early riser, a a late-to-come-bed type or a snorer.

In general though, even without these issues, I like the idea of haivng some separate space to retreat to when needed. All that super-duper-togetherness, our bodies are one, all tangled up in the sheets would not work for ME 365 days of the year...PLUS an extra day in the Leap Year!!!

Answer 7

Definately not hot and sooo over-rated. We've come so far in this world, that to have to go back to the "Ricky and Lucy", "Wilma and Fred Flinstone" eras would be a major setback. I know it's a common thing right now, but it's because we are a "feel good" society and have this need to keep up with the Jones. If you want my opinion...the Jones' can do whatever they want...I love having someone to warm up the sheets, throw my leg over, spoon with, etc. And since he helps me make the bed in the morning, I have no complaints.

Now if you were asking about separate bathrooms? Well, that would be another story....every couple should have his/her bathrooms.

Answer 8

It depends on the situation, the reason behind sleeping separately. My ex and I slept separately the nights he worked a different shift and had to go to bed really early, and get up really early, while the kids and I were still up for a few hours. I didn't disturb him at night and he didn't disturb me in the morning.
My fiance' and I, however, have the same schedule so we sleep together every night.

Answer 9

The disadvantage to the guy would be that all of his peers would lose most respect for him.
The advantage would be, you would build up the anxiety of wanting it from each other and when you finally do get in the same bed you'd really go for it.

Answer 10

Not hot at all... Married people should sleep in the same bedroom and bed for goodness sakes. Why even marry if you cannot sleep together in the same bed and room. You become one flesh when you marry so it should be one bed and bedroom and not two. JMHO!