My ex bf and I ended things on a very bad note. But no matter what, I can't seem to feel like i still care for him. When we were together he treated me with much respect. But something happened and another girl came into the picture and he treated me with such disrespect. Anyhow, its been about a month and we have not spoken. Tomorrow is his birthday, and I wanted to send him an email wishing him a happy birthday. He did not think about me on my birthday, we were fighting. I'm just really sad. We ended thigns by telling each other we had no reason to be in one anothers life. It was bad. I dont know why he changed so suddenly with me. Anyhow, should I leave well enough alone, or should I send him that email. He is so selfish and I dont want to give in. But I have a heart that even when people scew me over, I find it in me to forgive them. But he walks all over me. What should I do? PLease dont judge me for feeling this way. I only wanted to be friends, but it seems he has selfish ways
2007-03-13 16:32:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't never beg for love. He doesn't deserve you and if you send him an email, birthday card or whatever he'll like the opportunity to play with your feelings again.
Love yourself a little more and wait for someone that appreciate, love, and respect you.
Move on and wait for the right person. A relationship only works when two people are in love..
2007-03-13 16:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to let it go sweetie... It's hard to be just friends after a relationship has ended badly... You have to put closure to it and move on. Maybe later, sometime way down the road you guys could be friends again but the wounds and hurt is to fresh right now. Even though the physical part of the relationship is over, the emotional part lingers much longer. You can forgive him that's a good thing but forgiving and forgetting are 2 separate processes. No one is judging you. Let your good senses be your guide...you can be friendly without being friends. It takes at least 6 months to total heal from a relationship gone bad...Give yourself a gift. The gift of time....
2007-03-13 16:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by double_klicks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all HE IS A JERK! You should move on as much as it hurts and scars your heart. He is a selfish person and probabbly his new gf will do what he did to you to him , what goes around comes around. Ok just bare through it and you will find somone that deserves you. ok just hang in there sooner or later it will be fine ok so go out tgo meet new people and have fun even if ur not ready for a new relationship just meet other guys and see were that takes ya
2007-03-13 17:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by elizacandle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think about him and he does not think about
you; so now you need to think about you and what
will make you happy in life. If he really cares about
you then let him come to you as you have done
your part already. No e-mail is needed as he al-
ready knows your feelings towards him. If you
want to be happy in life then you need the sharing
of someone's else love in a relationship not just
yours, so be strong, and look for that someone
that gives to you what you give to them. Good
luck.
2007-03-13 16:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems you're not really over him. yeah there are people so kind hearted that they find it difficult to hate another person even thought that other person had wronged them... but you have to move on, there are more people out there who would appreciate your concern and affection. let him make the first move, don't burden your self in thinking about him. he's not worth it.
good luck
2007-03-13 20:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by unhappily married 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you are feeling, but please the best thing to do is let it alone!! I also have a big heart like you, and it has been nothing but trampled on!! Save yourself from more misery and please just let it go!!! Remember there is a reason he's an ex. Good Luck!
2007-03-13 16:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that, send him an email, to wish him a happy birthday.....Jesus loves you
2007-03-13 16:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good that you can forgive. Now....FORGET! Why are you wasting one moment of your precious life on this man? You sound like a nice person. You deserve better. Stop looking to him to validate yourself. He can't be trusted.
2007-03-13 16:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to improve your self-esteem. Don't allow yourself to be walked over. This guy is no longer with you. Move on. If you chase him, you'll regret it.
Do yourself a favor and date someone who really appreciates you!
2007-03-13 16:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't send it with the intent of getting him back, but it is seldom wrong to extend a kind gesture.
2007-03-13 16:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by hutmikttmuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋