Both of my sisters are trying to convince my younger sister's ex to marry his current girlfriend. He is preparing to have a baby with her over the summer and they feel he should marry her before the baby comes. (Mind you he has other children in existence). I don't entirely understand why they are pressing the matter. Their explanation to me is that he says he , loves her and that she's it for him. They say, reason to get married then. He says, thats not going to change anything. I love her, we are together, have been for years, and Im not going anywhere.
I say fine. Whatever. Get married. Dont get married. You love her, she loves you, you are committed to your relationship. It not anyone's business. But they argue that Im missing its MEANING. Maybe I am. Can anyone help me understand in real life terms? Is it of purely religious significance? Have I become too accepting of secular ways? Im not pro-marriage, nor pro-cohabitation, per se...I AM down for doing what works for YOU!
2007-03-13 16:29:34 · 5 answers · asked by kinduvabrat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think anyone should get married because they are expecting a baby. If anything I think that they should wait until after the baby is born. If she is really the "1" for him she will still be after the baby is born. My first husband and I got married because "we had to" I was pregnant, my husband also got married for the first time for the same reason. My husband and I were together for 21/2 years when our son was born. Our 18 month old son was the ring bearer in our wedding. We got married because we wanted the commitment that we both felt came with our vows. Last year we went through a very bad time in our marriage. We got through it and in 3 weeks we are going to renew our wedding vows as a symbol of our commitment to each other and a public expression of our love.
2007-03-13 17:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is the BOND that keeps two people together.
It's REAL love... it's REAL commitment.
Just saying someone is your bf or gf is just too temporary.
It will always remain in their head "Oh this is only temporary."
In MARRIAGE, it's seen as permanent.
Something that lasts till the day you die.
Breaking up with your bf or gf is easy.
Breaking up with your husband or wife is TOTALLY DIFFERENT. Just think of it as motivation to stay together.
Here's a website that explains marriage also:
http://www.tparents.org/Moon-Books/bif1/BIF1-1-301.htm
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2007-03-13 23:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life – it has a meaning and loving purpose - you just have to find your purpose and live it.
I believe every person is here for a definite purpose. Each person is special and valuable; that refers to me, you, your family, friends, in fact everybody! There is a loving plan for each of our lives here on earth and there is no such thing as coincidence. I don't believe that anything in life happens by chance and that every aspect of our lives points to something deeper.
You need to decide now to live for God rather than for yourself. You spend your life on Earth preparing yourself (as best you can) for death. I don't see death as a scary, negative experience, but birth into a bliss filled eternal life with God. I believe that this is something you have to consciously choose or not during your life on earth.
The meaning of life is for us to discover that we are true children of an infinitely loving God, to find out what our responsibilities are to our Creator, and to fulfill those responsibilities. Each of us is called to affirm, accept and develop the talents God has given us. -
2007-03-14 03:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The women here will rant and rave about how its some sacred bunk or something like that.
But you know because you are a woman that all that is not true.
2007-03-13 23:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not clear as to why people like to meddle with some one else's affairs.
2007-03-14 00:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋