My husband is 14 yrs older than me and i am 24 going on 25.He has some health issues he had a heart attack and was diagnosed with lung cancer but wont tell me know anything more.I am worried about him and his ever strange behavior acting like teenager again.He also is still smoking more now than ever before and has decided to drink more as well .Why is what i dont get?He wont talk to me i have tried all he will do is ignore me?
2007-03-13 16:22:27 · 15 answers · asked by Melrose G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We just found out i as pregnant which made him act normal for exactly one day before going out clubbing of all things?
2007-03-13 16:26:57 · update #1
Trade him in for a new model, that one has an expired warranty as it is..this time get something a bit newer and sportier~~
2007-03-13 16:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well lets see. Your husband has lung cancer. Im sure he is scared! And the heart attack just adds to his fears. So hence the smoking (why stop at this point? Im sure he's thinking that) and the drinking. Anything to make him forget he might be dying. Acting like a kid again? Because he might be dying and doesnt want to go out before he can do everything he ever wanted to.
Im sure he is ignoring you because he has probably seen that you and his brother are talking more. Go out with your hubby. Stick to him like glue. He needs your support, you are a healthy pregnant young lady that does not have lung cancer.
Get on the internet and go find out how to treat lung cancer. Do a search on reactions from people. I bet everything your husband is doing has already been written. Start thinking of him and not his brother. (you just posted similar question like 5 minutes ago.)
Hope all works out well for you and your husband and baby.
2007-03-13 16:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by My_Two_Centz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People deal with things differently and he appears to be having a hard time adjusting to his new diagnosis and dealing with previous health issues. Sometimes, people figure "why bother" when something like this is found out...they feel hopeless. You could try writing him a letter since he won't discuss this with you. He may need outside help to deal with everything. Best wishes!
2007-03-13 16:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by Michele D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is he's scared. With his health issues and now a new baby, he's trying to get the most out of his life before it's too late. Since he won't tell you about his health, as his wife, you may be able to schedule an appt with his doctor and get the information. The doctor may be able to explain your husband's behavior better.
2007-03-13 16:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is falling into that old pit that most do fall in when faced with a bad, scary, life threating situation, it is called denial. If he ignores, doesn't talk about it, numbs it, goes on acting like everything is fine, then in his mind everything will be fine. Unfortunately, that is not the case. As his wife you should be able to contact his Dr. express your concerns and his lack of concern about his predicament. The Dr. should be able to guide you in the right direction. Reassure him you love him and will be by his side, but he needs to face this like a man, not die like a child. Good luck.
2007-03-13 16:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by Shyler 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He feels he is living on borrowed time and now he is living everyday like it is his last, ultimately he's terrified.
You can be the stand by your man type wife and work with him through this or you may decide he's too far gone and you need to give him his solitude. Either way would be an acceptable and reasonable choice.
2007-03-13 16:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, lung cancer is one thing that cannot be cured. He has poor health & with a poor prognosis.
He is drinking & smoking more than usual as a way to self-medicate (escape) from his situation.
2007-03-13 16:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry to say you are in a marriage that is failing fast.
do you really want to continue with the preganacy and deal with a child alone?
this is a man with too many problems and too selfcentered. if you stay you will have nothing but years and years of the same!!!
2007-03-13 17:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
pl seek for suggestion from a counselor for ur subject.he will locate whats the definitely subject with ur hubby mentally or bodily.u may be endurance till finally that.i desire all ur sacrifice endurance and love heavily isn't wasted.a million or the different day(f he somewhat primary individual)he will comprehend his errs carried out to u:)i pray God that u ought to have a good and delightful existence.
2016-10-18 08:08:15 · answer #9 · answered by trinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been hit hard with some pretty bad crap. He is trying to deal with it by himself, and he thinks by doing so, he is saving you from being hurt. You need to talk to him, and let him know, your not going anywhere, and if he loved you, he would understand that.
2007-03-13 16:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋