my boyfriend and i have been together for nearly 4 years. weve had our ups and downs. And recently he broke it off because of communication and trust {which to me seems like an unsual reason to break up}. surprisingly after he broke it off he told me he loves me. immediately after he broke up with me, he was hugging, kissing, play fighting with me...not to mention that he just bought me a ring {sized wrong} and told me that we'll go together to get it sized, and still wanted me to go to his house, and be friends. its been nearly a week, and he has been calling me at most 8 times a day. im trying to play hard to get and making it seem as though i have been happy saying "ive been having a great day" or just seeming not affected by the breakup. as i am telling him this, i realize he's getting affected by what I am saying. An example, he was having a horrible day at work, and i tell him that my day was great {which it actually was} and he seems upset by it, as though he expected me to be depressed. he then asks me if i have met any guys, and i say no. it seems like he can not get over me, and constantly seeks my attention by texting, calling, and Instant Messaging...i want him back obviously, what steps can i take to make him see that he wants to be with me too.
2007-03-13 16:19:57 · 5 answers · asked by sophia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i care for him, love him, and want to be with him...he claims to love me, and obviously wants to stay connected to me...i just want him to come back
2007-03-13 17:00:16 · update #1
Dump this zero and get yourself a hero. Real men don't leave people hanging like he has you.
2007-03-13 16:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by Johnny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well , I can see why you would be confused by his behavior.... lol.... it's a little unusual to say the least.
I think he scared himself a little ..... he bought you a ring ( obviously cause he cares about you ) but then he ran. I think maybe he is wanting more of a commitment between you but he doesn't know how to handle the commitment itself. Sounds like you need to have a really good heart to heart.I would tell him straight out that you are feeling confused about his actions and need to know how he is feeling. Also, you might want to tell him how you're feeling first . If he is feeling a little jittery it may put his mind at ease and help him to open up . Best of luck to you : )
2007-03-13 16:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really sound lilke both of you need to take some time to
deal with what going, this not good when you are playing
games, after 4 years this should be more then what being
said. if you dont want to get back with him, then be honest
with him and let him know how you feel. if you broke up for
the reason that was stated.then it sound like it still there.
YOU KNOW COMMUNICATION. THAT THE KEY.
2007-03-13 16:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want to get him back I would tell him. Don't play games. It sounds like he wants to be with you too. I would try to be straight forward about it. But don't let him call you so much, that's a little obsessive.
2007-03-13 16:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by Jaycie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi dear after readin ur essay i think nw i m confused...this is like a bollywood twist flick...he loves me...he loves me not...if he loves u go and get married...if he doesn't love u...go and love another guy...simply...
2007-03-21 15:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by krishna_raj_s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋