O.K. I'm sorry. I know it was wrong. I don't know why I did it. I was angry at her and I wanted to get back at her. It was wrong. I was wrong. I'm so sorry. My wife is beautiful. She is so sweet. I've messed everything up. I know this has really hurt her. It's hurt her self esteem and I'm sorry. I hate the internet. So much/too much temptation. I lost control. I value women I want you to know that. I would never hurt anybody. I've got a daughter myself and I hate myself that I lusted after women that are half my age. I can't help it. I've put it behind me and gotten myself under control and am starting to come out of depression (I've lost 50 lb). She thinks I've had an affair. I have not, would not, never, ever. I understand her distrust. I don't know how to communicate that I would never do that. Women, I'm sorry. I know there are going to be people that yell "Pervert" but I'm not. I've stopped. I'm no predator. I'm just a man (not a perfect man). How do I convince my wife?
2007-03-13 16:11:55 · 19 answers · asked by bigdaddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, the women were older (>18). I'm no sicko.
2007-03-13 16:31:41 · update #1
show her this question.
it speaks of your love and sounds genuine.
2007-03-13 16:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a hold of yourself and be a man. If you haven't done anyting that most men have done. Anyone who tells you looking at naked women is a sin is a bigger liar. I wouldn't feel sorry at all. Your word is your honor and there is nothing to be apologetic about. The more your try, the more guilty you look.
What you lack is the confidence after emerging from various problems. Don't let others beat you up mentally. You will hate yourself and them for it later. A man of confidence is not cocky. You just go about doing your business, raising the family, and be respectful to others. Let it cool down.
2007-03-13 17:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you feeling so guilty? You are sounding like you did have an affair. When we say to someone, "I am sorry" and really mean it and try to show you are, that is about all you can do. It does take time for someone to forget the hurt they received, We can forgive others, but we never forget. Time does heal, but if you do what is right and tell her you love her and appreciate her, she should get on with her life. Good luck and remember, women love attention from their man.
2007-03-13 16:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by Nita K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first off, I am assuming the naked women were over 18 years old.....if not, then you are a pervert, sicko;
Okay, so with the assumption that they are over 18; relax, it was a naked picture....good for you for losing 50 lbs! and coming out of your depression.....looking at a picture of a naked woman over the age of 18 on the internet is not the same as having an affair...........you have said you are sorry.......
just give her a hug and a kiss
2007-03-13 16:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is young and silly and you are weak and everything that has come to be wrong with this country in the 21st century.
So why don't you stop jerking off too while your at it, hell just tell your wife to cut off your balls.
Your wife being beautiful has nothing to do with your natural desire as a man to want to at least view naked women from time to time. Keep this crap up and you'll be divorced within three years or I'll see you on Dr, Phil.
Listen to Luly... the way you guys are acting you'd think you nailed half the playboy mansion...it really is quite funny and quite sad.
Geesh!
2007-03-13 16:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it looks like you have definately learned a lesson. I wont yell "pervert". You are human. I can see both sides of this and yes I'm sure she is upset. I would as the other suggestion already posted says, show her this question..it does sound sincere and caring for your wife. Second chances are for everyone; remember, its the third chances that are nearly extinct. Talk to her tell her how you feel. I've heard of many people having to get rid of the internet to ease the stress of relationships. I guess that is up to the two of you. Next time you get angry at her, DON'T get "back at her", talk to her, express how you feel without revenge. Love is the most precious thing you can have in this world. So many people go without it. Good Luck in your efforts.
2007-03-13 16:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a woman and would like to say that I understand your wife point of view. You have to let it go with time. If she didn't leave then you will have to win her trust back. Start by staying away from the computer and paying more attention to her. Even if looking at nude women isn't a crime it is something that will hurt your wife because it not her you are looking at. And with the thought in your mind without even touching just the thought most people will say you have committed the act. And then with younger girls makes it even worst.
2007-03-13 16:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The more you try to convince her that you did not cheat, the less convinced she will be. My suggestion would be just to work your butt off to make it up to her. That doesn't mean to wait on her hand and foot or anything. It just simply means let it go, relax, and try to just move on. Also, she deserves a little bit of groveling so buy her some flowers, take her to a nice dinner, and explain to her that you want her to be happy and that you are willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen. Then, ask her what it would take and see if the two of you can make a plan and stick to it. Maybe you need to call a counselor even if it is just someone to mediate while you two have a discussion. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-13 16:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanne 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If my husband wrote me note, like the one you wrote above, I would give him a kiss and forgive him.
You didn't do anything horrible. Naked photos of women, go to Las Vegas and you see those photos everywhere on the strip. The point is that you didn't acted upon that.
Don't hate the internet, don't loose your mind over this issue. Write your wife a note, explain why you did it and how guilty to felt after doing it. But most of all explain how much you love her.
2007-03-13 16:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're a pervert. It is quite natural to want to appreciate the human form. I think you and your wife have deeper issues here. My fiance and I look at naked women (and men) together, and it can add to you intimacy. I know my fiance is not having an affair because he gets this stuff out of his system in my company. I don't have low self-esteem because I know my fiance finds these generally gorgeous women attractive, and he finds me attractive, ergo I must be gorgeous too. I don't know how you can convince your wife, but if you are honest you'll never do that I hope you can.
2007-03-13 16:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by Hosebeast-ess to be 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its obvious how sorry you are for what you've done. And its good that you are, and its good that you know you're wrong. Tell her how sorry you are, that you feel soo bad for waht you did. Tell her how beautiful she is, and that those women you saw don't even come close to how beautiful your wife is. Its going to take a lot of time to restore the damage but you have to constantly be mending this wound in your relationship. Make this your number 1 priority for you. Goodluck and best wishes for you and your beautiful wife.
Godbless,
2007-03-13 16:18:14 · answer #11 · answered by pyroman162 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋