i have always considered him as my soulmate and still have some feelings for him but not the same as for my husband....
2007-03-13 16:09:29 · 39 answers · asked by smooches 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
remember that he is your ex for a reason. if he is willing to try to sleep with a married woman, then you never know if he would sleep with a single woman if he were married to you. stay away even if you have slight feelings for him. your ex isn't saying he has actual feelings for you. he's not offering to court you, he just wants sex.
remember why you married your current hubby. you took a vow, and now it is your job to keep it. how would you feel if your hubby's ex girfriend called him asking him for a fling? it wouldn't feel too nice for you. please don't do it to him.
2007-03-13 16:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by annie41378 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any respect for the man you are married to you will tell your ex to back off before your husband gets wind of this and takes matters into his own hands, you must not have very much respect for your marriage if you are even considering doing this, if your ex was your so called soulmate why did you divorce in the first place.
2007-03-13 16:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by sla571963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may still have feelings for him but consider the fact that he is actually disrespecting you and your marriage by asking you for sex. Don't let it confuse you. There is a reason you and he are no longer together. I think you should put your feelings for him in the proper perspective and refuse to talk with him from this point on. He doesn't care about, and is dangerous for, your marriage, and your husband would probably be really hurt if he knew that you were talking with your ex while knowing your ex has ulterior motives. How can you honestly justify it?
2007-03-13 16:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only do you tell him "no", but you have to politely, but firmly ask him not to call you at home anymore out of respect for you new marriage, vows, & husband. If he still continues there are a few things you can do, not necessarily in this order:
1) Report him to the phone company
2) Change your phone to an unlisted #
3) Make a police report.
These sound like serious things to do, but you are in a serious dilemma. Put an end to his calls. Oh, yeah...
4) Tell you new husband
2007-03-13 16:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by gervoi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him NO! plain and simple .... you are married .... COMMITTED TO SOMEONE ELSE ..... you need to consider that before anything. Ask yourself if your X is worth losing your marriage for and you might want to give a little thought to the reasons he became your X to begin with . You should do yourself a favor and set him straight immediately so that you aren't continually faced with this temptation. You said it yourself .... he's asking you for sex ..... nothing more than that. Is it really worth changing your whole life for and hurting your husband ? You really need to give some thought to what you're contemplating . Personally, if you don't stand your ground and do what's right I think you will only have many regrets to look forward to.
Take care : )
2007-03-13 16:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW... that shouldn't even be a question...Tell him your married...if you honor and respect the commitment you made you to your husband then it should be obvious...and if he's calling you asking you for sex...then hopefully you wont lower yourself to that...think about your husband and how you would feel if he did that same thing. No one should have to feel that kind of betrayal especially from someone who is supposed to be there for them no matter what. If your are seriously considering going through with it then you should let your husband go...obviously he isn't what you want.
2007-03-13 16:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by bellabell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to leave the past in the past and that you have moved on and gotten married. also you're in-love with your husband and you have a life together, and if he can't respect that, then he needs to buzz off, leave you alone, don't write, and DO NOT CALL. it sounds a little harsh but, when you have a horn-dog of an ex trying to get in your pants especially since your married, sometimes that's what it takes to get the point across
2007-03-13 16:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I personally think you should tell him NO, but obviously you are thinking about it. If you decide that you are going to do this, then please be honest with your husband and tell him what is going on. Don't be a user as that is about the worst thing you could do to both yourself and both of the men involved. However, I have a feeling that your ex, just wants "sex" and that is it. Are you willing to risk it all just for that? I certainly hope not!! Good luck and God Bless!!! Please remember your wedding vows!!!
2007-03-13 16:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy Roo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? You have to ask other people what you should tell when the answer is obvious. No. That's fine if you don't love your husband, but you should not disrespect him by having an affair behind his back. If you don't want to be with him and you want to be with your ex tell him and get a divorce, than get back with your ex. But be sure that is what you want.
2007-03-13 16:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by YouGotTold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this, if you love your husband like you say you do, then tell your ex that you are married and you are not going to cheat. If your feelings were that deep for your husband, then you shouldn't have any problems answering that yourself.
2007-03-13 16:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by BrandyB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋