And start to age, do they start to lose attraction for one another? Do they still feel attracted to their wife/ husband even when their super wrinkly? How is their sex life.
2007-03-13 16:05:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if they kept the fire burning, its still hot, but relationships do change, they get more comfortable, you don't get mad at the small stuff anymore. i guess they don't see each others wrinkles very well,so it's good that eyesight fails a little,
2007-03-13 16:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey....I loved your question...but I think you've been misled. I've been married 18 years and I have five children. My husband is ten years older than I am, and when I was young, I use to think the same as you. But as the kids kept coming and life was going around, I developed a greater love for my husband. I don't have wrinkles....at my age, we call them character lines and oil of olay fixes those. I work hard at keeping in shape, as does my husband because a wise person once told me that what it took to get my husband is also what it takes to keep him.
As far as the physical attration? sex gets ten times better with age. That would be how we ended up with all those children! Over time, you learn more...you know each other's bodies. And if you desire your spouse in more than just the physical aspect....in the heat of the moment, you aren't looking for new age spots or a new wrinkle....you are loving the one you are with in every sense of the word. We have sex about three times a week.
I'm not sure I'm getting the point across, but in this materialistic world we live in, there comes a point in time, where none of that matters.
2007-03-13 16:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can lose attraction for one another even when they're young. People usually lose attraction for each other because of things OTHER than physical appearance. Negative attitudes and personal issues relating to a person's character are what drives people apart and they lose the attraction they first had for each other when it was new and before they really got to know each other. If you still respect and admire your husband or wife over all those years...then being old and wrinkly won't even matter because you love the person and you're attracted to who they are and not what they look like.
2007-03-13 16:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by BRAT 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you be in a marriage for a long time it could change. It all depends on if you got marry at a young age. Sex life does change if you got marry young. Some don't have the sex drive like they use to especially if they end up getting sick. Health problems arise in a spouse and that person could be left without a sex life in their marriage. When a person is super wrinkly it could change among some too.
2007-03-13 16:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK here is the deal. When married couples get old, they still love each other, they still desire each other, and they have something that young couples don't have. They have a history together; they have roots, they have children that love them, they have grandchildren too. They are with each other through the good and bad times. Yes, they may get wrinkles here and there, but in each other's eyes, they never grow old. My husband tells me that he sees me as the young pretty 20 year old girl he saw across the dance floor more than 35 years ago..and I see him as that young soldier just out of the Army so handsome and tall. So what I am saying is is that I love my husband more than I did 35 years ago and he feels the same way. P.S. Our love life is great!
2007-03-13 16:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When couples age...they love each other the same and even more....
The changes in the body...that appear to others to be dreadful...are actually sexy changes of maturity and wisdom...and life's growth and perseverance to live...
I know for me, I just turned 30 and I have had three kids....
I don't see myself in any way ... near what I was when my husband and I met and I was a teen...
He is nothing close to what he looked like when we met and he was in his 20s....
I think he is sexier...cuter...I love the gray hair in his mustache and go-tee....
I love his maturity....the more he ages the better he looks...
The sexier I feel....because even after three kids...I know I have given my husband 3 lives through me....what could be more wise or loving for him....
So, love over years grows deeper than just the body...it flow into a spiritual connection that you couldn't otherwise have...and you see each other for more than you could before...
And the looks just enhance what you love on the inside of a person....
Plus, by the time you are old and wrinkly...you have fallen in love over and over and over....all for different reasons that you "learn" about a person as you go through your journeys together!!!!
2007-03-13 16:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious you're pretty young, but hon, the bottom line is "It aint ever the years, it's the mileage...."
Some folks, as you read in this category, are bored to tears with each other after a few months, and lots of couples are still in love after 40 or 60 years with each other. Love, and attraction never are static, they are constantly evolving, and love, and love making is always best between a couple who know each other ------ very well.
2007-03-13 16:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess everyone ages. If you age along with your partner, of course you will notice changes. Of course you'll think young men/women are attractive. But the whole point of marriage is a life long commitment. Till death do us part. As you grow older and see your body change, you'll understand your partner's body changing also. We can't stay young forever. True love is forever, and time should only make you love one another more. P.S. IF you need some excitement, just hide some porno mags for yourself. LOve is love. LOve to all of you.
2007-03-13 16:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by k.webb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I work in a nursing home and we have married couples and their love is just as strong today as it was the day they got married because people of their age took the pride of their marriage to make it last unlike most of the marriages today and their sex life is none of anyones business.
2007-03-13 16:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by sla571963 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With age, comes maturity. You don't let the petty stuff bother you. My husband and I get along better than any of our friends...sex is better with age, IMO, cause you don't worry about impressing each other..the love is a deeper kind. We're 58 and 51...wouldn't trade him for the world.
2007-03-13 16:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Debbie R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 75 and I am 65. I am every much in love with my husband. We
were best buddies before we got married and still are. We enjoy each others
company and wrinkles? We don't notice them. We just notice each other.
2007-03-13 16:12:43 · answer #11 · answered by Garnet 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋