My husband is 14 yrs older than me and i am 24 going on 25.He has some health issues he had a heart attack and was diagnosed with lung cancer but wont tell me know anything more.I am worried about him and his ever strange behavior acting like teenager again.His younger brother lives with us he is 26 yrs old but still acts like a teenager as well. He is an okay guy and owns 4 Liqueur stores so he pays rent. I am almost 4 months pregnant and my brother-in-law though a jerk at times talks to me and pays attention more than my own hubby.I feel so guilty for confiding in him about things but my own hubby has taken to just ignoring me?
2007-03-13 16:02:52 · 18 answers · asked by Melrose G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel horrible for beeing attacted and developing feelings toward my brother-in-law i never was before though?What can i do i am so confused?
2007-03-13 16:07:01 · update #1
actually my brother-in-law inherited the stores from his parents and was still living with them till they retired the man has never lived by himself does not run any of the stores prefers to sleep all day.
2007-03-13 16:44:58 · update #2
I would recommend to stay away from all that mess , don't let your loneliness take over you, unless of course you want to appear on a Jerry Springer Show. Right now your hormones are just acting up, just relax and focus on your baby and how to reconnect with your husband, remember.."for better or worse" he needs you as much as you and your baby need him, Good luck and God Bless!
2007-03-13 16:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on I'm old but not that old . Why would his brother that owns 4 liqueur stores live with you and his brother he should have a ton of cash with a nice home with a pool and babes all around it Lets start over . You and his brother are screwing around your 4 month pregnant with his kid and your hubby will have a heart attack if he finds out .the hubby has lung cancer and when he dies you and his brother are going to use the insurance money to buy a liqueur store
2007-03-13 16:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going through a very emotional time, your husband is sick, and your pregnant, thats enough to cause confusion. Throw in the fact that you have a brother in law living in close quarters with you, he listens, he cares...and pays you the attention your craving from your husband....it will cause feelings to develop.
Don't feel guilty for confiding in him, there is nothing wrong with it, as long as your remain family and friends..and nothing more.
Your husbands actions right now, are probably more based on his fear of dying, so he's acting like a teenager, and in his pursuit to fill some unknown void to you, he's ignoring you in the process. I bet if you were to sit down and have a heart to heart with your husband, tell him your concerns about his actions, he'd listen...and maybe see where your coming from. Confront his fears...with him.
But you really need to talk to your husband...he's hiding his feelings from you, if I had to bet, and if you were to face those fear with him head on, he'd come out of it. There was a sparkle there at one time, you did marry him....??? Something intrigued you enough to want him in your life.....
2007-03-13 16:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see it as an unconscious way of making sure if anything happens to your husband that you wont be stranded. Go talk to your husband. Dont get in any deeper. You dont want to have a very embarrassing story to tell your child about mommy and uncle.
2007-03-13 16:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by My_Two_Centz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take caution. Try not to have "feelings" for your brother-in-law. I know you need attention right now but please do something about it. Maybe you might like to talk to your husband more often. Try doing things together and I am sure that he is afraid to leave you too. One of my family members has cancer too, but don't worry, with prayers and loving support from the family, she is fine today. She is alive after 8 years of cancer and thank God for it. Good luck.
2007-03-13 16:09:38 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask your brother-in law to move out, he can afford it. You two know what's right, so don't hurt your husband's feeling, that will be worst than his cancer.
Don't worry about his behavior, try to understand him, he's just trying to be a little more your age.
Get your brother-in law out of your house and out of your mind. You won't regret it.
2007-03-13 16:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as your just talking to him as a friend/relative there's no problem, try to be a little understanding your husband is going through some tough times and may not be dealing well.
if you think anything is going to happen between you and your brother in law back off, nothing good will come from it
2007-03-13 16:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by gypse76 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
nothing wrong with confiding with brother in law if hubby wont listen just be carefful not to cross the line. remember your hubby has health issues and you should stand by him till the end. after wards you can pursue others.
2007-03-13 16:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your biggest and only concern is that little one that you are pregnant with. Be so very CAREFUL. You are setting yourself up in a situation that could blow-up in your face and wreck your baby's life as well as your own. Be an adult and take care of that little one. Good Luck.
2007-03-13 16:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by Praire Crone 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT BLOW HIM. NO MATTER WHAT. Just wait. Your hubby will pass soon and you can then be with his brother without anything coming between them. You are totally irrelevant to this situation. You are NOTHING, MEANINGLESS. These are brothers we're talking about. You don't want brothers to have secrets do you? That's just RUDE.
2007-03-13 16:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋