We just started going to birthing classes and they told us that we needed to discuss all the options since every pregnancy is different. In the case that I would have to have one we need to know if how we feel is ok, normal or wrong. Because I will be put to sleep by meds and have to go thur recovery, Is it okay to tell family and friends that they will have to wait to see the baby until after I have gotten to hold him? They told us that the baby and Dad would be taken back up to our room (seeing that everything is okay with baby), but is it wrong to want to let dad and baby bond until I am able to come out of recovery? Please let us know...this will be our first.
2007-03-13 15:59:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
my wife and i had our baby a few days ago and she had emergency c section,i held him while she recovered,then took to babys mom.i told nurse to keep baby in nursery till mom came out of recovery.then i told everybody that nurse said he stays until mom is out of recovery.hes doing fine now .
be prepared for a feeling youve never had before,dad too,its
undescribable
2007-03-13 16:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your baby, but you have to think about how long your family will have to wait to see the baby. It seems kind of rude to me that if they are there that they should have to wait. A lot of times, they take the baby to clean them up and do what they need to do. These days you don't have to be put to sleep very often to have a c-section. When I had my 2 c-sections, I was awake and saw my baby. I know that you are talking an Emergency section, but I wouldn't be too worried about that. You may feel differently when the time comes, if it happens. I would definately explain it ahead of time to your friends and family though so that they are not offended. They may want to come to the hospital after you are out of recovery instead of coming earlier.
2007-03-13 16:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by BeThAnY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your baby and your call ,But every one that will be there will be very stressed waiting and worrying about you ,getting to see the baby in the viewing area threw the viewing window after it is cleaned up is a real relief for them .Some hospitals will leave the baby in your room most of the time .As far as bonding the baby will sleep most of the first day .
Wishing you and the family a beautiful life .
2007-03-13 16:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 emergency c-sections and in every single one I asked to be awake, so they just numbed me from the abdomen down. I wasn't down in recovery long, in fact maybe an hour or two and by the time I made it upstairs the baby was barely ready to make it to our room, because they have to clean the baby and monitor the baby's vitals. In the event that the baby is ready before you come out of recovery, It would be perfect for dad to bond with baby. I personally chose not to tell family and friends that the baby had arrived till my husband and I had the opportunity to bond with baby and I was coherent. It's your choice what you feel most comfortable with, just don't forget that you have this baby forever, friends and family only see him or her a few times.
2007-03-13 16:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think there is anything wrong with that at all! This is your baby and you should get time to bond with it before any other family does. While you are recovering daddy can be in there bonding with the baby. I know it is something you need to consider but I hope you do not have to go through a C-section, if you do not want one.
2007-03-13 16:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by 1st time momma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think i would much rather have dad and baby bond as much as they can if im not able to right away. i would definately tell family that i would like for them to wait untill i have held him before they do. It wont be long before you get to hold the baby, they can view him from the nursery window untill you are ready for visitors. and the baby needs somebody, if not you then the next best is dad!
2007-03-13 16:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by bluejeanwifey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had to have a c-section yesterday 3-13-07 she was 36 weeks the baby was put in nicu because of fluid in her lungs which also in the transition phase they have to go sometimes till they learn how to breathe anyway my daughter is unable to go upstairs to see her at first this was her request but she called me after I got home and ask me to go up to let her know she wasn't alone so don't say anything until the time comes because you may change it later. but if this is your request then I think that the family and friends should respect your decision.
2007-03-14 00:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by what gives 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally ok to make this request. It's your baby and you and the dad have every right to be the first ones to hold him/her. Explain how you feel about this to your friends and family, they will understand, it would be very rude of them if they didn't.
2007-03-13 17:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with that. You've spent 9 months creating the baby you have every right to want to see/hold the baby before your family starts passing her/him around! (I do always let my husband hold the baby first (before me) cause I figure he helped make it and I been holding it for 9 months lol)
2007-03-13 16:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THATS NOT WRONG....I AM SCHEDULED TO HAVE MY SECOND C-SECTION ON APRIL 16. NO ONE IS GOING TO BE TOLD WHAT TIME THE BABY IS BORN UNTIL I AM OUT OF RECOVERY AND HE AND HIS OLDER BROTHER GET TO MEET AND BOND WITH DADDY, AND FINIALLY WHEN I GET OUT OF RECOVERY SEEING THE NEW LITTLE ONE AS WELL....SECTION IS SCHEDULED FOR AROUND 5:30 AM...WE WILL PROBABLY WAIT UNTIL AFTERNOON TO TELL EVERYONE SO I HAVE A FEW HOURS TO RECOOPERATE BEFORE COMPANY COMES TO THE HOSPITAL. GOOD LUCK.
2007-03-13 16:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋