I have a 13 year old friend who told me he was afraid of telling his father and mother that he was gay. He asked me what should he do, but I couldn't answer correctly because I don't know what advice to give him. His father is extremely agaisnt-homos and I think that my friend is afraid of what his father would think of him if he came out of the closet. What should I tell him?
2007-03-13 15:59:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
he will be ready at 21 or so 22 .. sad .. he has to have plan as some parents kick them out sad........ sad this is why their teen yrs are torment and suck.. they have sheltered lives and get depressed clinically in families like that .. he needs to see a school counselor to keep from falling apart.. 13 is to young to be having sex so tell him to talk to u and learn together on it..he needs support and theres no reason now to tell his
parents really not yet.. have him join clubs of gay ism thru here or in life at school etc to get strong enuf to accept him for him all u can do is that support check out groups support groups and be there. for him.. read up on it if need be.. to know what he is going thru do it together least then people will thin hes on track according to them if he chills with u and learns..
2007-03-13 16:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.As hes only 13 he needs to stay in the closet for a while longer yet. If he's father is as extreme as you say then he won't change so your friend is in for a hard time, so why does he have to expose his sexual preferences to the world? do you hear all your friends running out there and yelling to the world what their sexual preferences are? no of course not. He has a lot of priorities to work on before his sex, like school work, tell him to study hard and make a good education work for him and then he can enjoy his senior life with whoever he likes
2007-03-14 07:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, at 13 he's got 2 options. Stay in the closet or move into a new home with more accepting parents. Neither are easy options.
2007-03-13 17:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no one right way or wrong way to come out. Its a lifelong process of being ever more open and true with yourself and others- done in your own way and your own time.
Hope this web site helps. It is a downloadable book made possible by the HRC- Human Rights Campaign.
2007-03-13 16:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by d g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that it depends on rather people already think he's gay and if he's being harrassed because of it then he need to tell his parents but if he's safe in the closet then I don't think he needs to come out until he's older. It's up to him.
2007-03-13 16:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinks its best if you just offer support rather than advice because it really has to be right in his heart to tell, I am a lesbian woman and when i came out to my family i wasnt soo young but it didnt go as well as i planned, so show your friend u care but please let him do it when he is trully ready to do it on his own!!
2007-03-13 16:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best advice is to let him hide the fact for another few years until he is capable of being independant financially
2007-03-13 16:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by drezdogge 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋