i had an abortion in january band i am with child again. I dont want one now so what to do
2007-03-13 15:59:18 · 43 answers · asked by dede27 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
u all say say stop have sex but i have been on birth control and it happen.i have 4 kids and i lost one .so whats wrong with those birth control
2007-03-13 16:29:45 · update #1
Abortion is not a form of birth control If you are not ready for another one they the right precautions should have been made so this wouldnt have happened. You need to go see someone about your options. Having too many abortions can and might result in not being able to ever carry a child. You need to think about if you ever want to have children. If you are not ready Im am positive there are tons of families out there that cannot have a child and would do anything to care for one.
2007-03-13 16:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Start by using birth control from now on. You are very irresponsible abortion is not a form of birth control. Why don't you consider adoption this time and give the baby a life and let an infertile couple have him or her to love. Your situation really hits a nerve with former fertility patients like myself and also for people trying to conceive. Do the right thing this time and dont let it happen again until you are ready to be a mother.
2007-03-13 16:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want another abortion and can't keep the child, you should consider adoption. There are plenty of loving would-be parents who are infertile, you know! In the end it's your choice, whatever you want to do, just make sure it is the right decision FOR YOU! I don't really support abortion but it's legal so I couldn't hold it against another woman if she made that decision, you know? Just...definitely go on birth control AND have your man use a condom...double your protection...so you won't have to make this difficult decision again. I hope you can make a decision you will be happy with. Some people have unexpected pregnancies but their babies end up being the best thing int heir world...and others put the babies up for adoption and let it be the best thing in someone else's world and give the kid a chance at a wonderful life. Plus many adoptive parents are willing to pay for mama's pregnancy expenses just to have a healthy child. Best of luck to you, and I hope you will find happiness!
2007-03-13 16:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by grayhare 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your Godmother needs to get a life!! you need to tell her that you dont want or need her opinions any more. Just because she is heartless, and aborted many of her babies, doesnt mean you have to sink to that level of a human being that she is. Of course it will be hard having a baby. I see stories on here of many people who were financially secure and got pregnant, only to have one or the other parent get layed off, lose medical coverage, etc. So even if you were at a place in your life to have a child, there is no gaurantees. It is YOUR body and YOUR decision, and no one can force you into anything. If you think you would regret an abortion then chances are you would. And then you would have to deal with it forever. Your godmother could go on worry free because you did what she wanted but you would have emotional issues to deal with, and if something went wrong, you might not be able to have more kids. Wanting to give your baby life is not selfish, but killing it because someone else wants you to is.
2016-03-28 22:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, dont have another abortion. Have the baby and give him or her up for adoption. And if your not ready for a baby than get on some birth control or stop having sex.
2007-03-13 16:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by ButterFlyAngel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding. If you aren't ready for a kid then why are you having unprotected sex in the first place? Can not keep having an abortion every couple of months can you. Have this baby and let someone adopt it. Many couples want kids and can't have them. One mistake is forgiven to ignorance, but two of the same.......Stop. Change the direction your life is going now. Otherwise I'm afraid you are heading for a life of troubles. You need to talk to someone who can help you. Try your mother. Or if not then grandmother or a counselor. I think you may be looking for something in the wrong way. My best to you. Good luck with the life change. You have many options. Let someone who cares for you help you to make a good decision. Not the guy you are with as he must not care to much to help get in this place ..again.
2007-03-13 16:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by peach 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only answer is to not have sex or get permanently fixed if you're not interested in having more kids. That's the RESPONSIBLE thing to do.
I want you to understand that you have SIX children if you have four at home, one that you "lost" and one that you aborted. If you consider the one you "lost" I'm assuming miscarriage as your baby, why is the one you aborted not one of your kids?? Think about it. This baby is NOT DIFFERENT from your others. You will continue to get pregnant.. most women who abort their babies will be pregnant again within 1 year.
Please, just have this baby and place it for adoption.
2007-03-13 16:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask yourself why you and the men you are having sex with are not successfully practicing safe sex.
Perhaps you should speak with a doctor or Certified Registered Nurse Practitioner about various types of birth control available to you both. The first type of birth control should be abstinence until you get the first question answered.
Check in your Yellow Pages or with your local Department of Public Health for referrals to agencies that provide free counseling.
2007-03-13 16:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a good reliable form of birth control BEFORE you have sex.
Please consider adoption. I do not believe abortion is right. I used to, and I still try not to judge, but having lost a baby, I find it hard to accept that people can terminate a viable pregnancy.
In the end, you need to make a decision that is right for both you and the baby.
2007-03-13 16:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy2myangelMark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree...adoption is the best choice if you are not prepared to raise a child.
You really should be on some form of consistant birth control. Furthermore, the men you are sleeping with should be using birth control as well!! There are a lot more risks associated with unprotected sex aside from pregnancy!!
2007-03-13 16:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋