I had liked this man for about two years and fell in love with him the first time we dated. We dated a second time and after about three months, he informed me he was gay. I am now with someone else and it's been over a year. I am in love with the man I am with now, but this other man, my gay, best friend, has been in my heart for a long while. My love for him has been looming over my head for a long time (years). I can tell myself I don't have feelings for him, but it never seems to work out. I've even talked with him about it. He doesn't know exactly what to do. Can someone please help me so I can move on with my life, but still remain best friends with him?
2007-03-13 15:39:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When was the last time you told him he was your best friend? I think you need to let yourself be his friend, not to pine just be there for him and let him know it. He will not be your lover. You aren't his type. Do you want his friendship or his bod?
2007-03-13 15:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by crystal89431 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have one hell of a battle on your hands buddy, because I have and am having this very same battle at the moment. As the old saying goes, I have LOVED and LOST, and it hurts so so damn much. But you have to make that hard choice of who you are really in love with, and go for that person, you can always keep the beautiful memories of the other love you had and remember them fondly within your heart.
Its a tough battle but I think you will handle it confidently.
Good luck mate and happy memories.
2007-03-14 03:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by mrlonely_solonely_immrlonely 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a man then : Make a decision as to which one you want to be with and never turn back. Why are you wasting your time wondering who to be with. Stop wondering! You might die tomorrow why not live this moment as intensely and powerfully as possible?
If you are a woman, then, remain Friends with him, if you can bear it. If you keep on feeling love for him, never be selfish about it. I am gay but I feel attracted/can feel intimacy (this does not mean sex/lust people) towards/with women who do not expect/want anything from me. They allow me to be myself and share my soul/self with them (non sexual).
2007-03-13 23:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if this will work but you might try to involve him in activities that you would normally do with your female friends. That way, in your mind, you can kinda slot him into the whole "just another one of my girl-friends" etc.
Like I said, not sure if it would work but it might be worth a shot.
Personally I hate being treated like a girl-friend from my chick friends =/.
Best of luck!
2007-03-13 22:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by Gene M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By throwing yourself into your career.
2007-03-13 22:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Love Gays! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋