Unexpected pregnancy?

Question

How do you deal with the anxiety of a unexpectedn pregnancy. Ok...I am married, have a 15 month old, wasnt planning to have another until after 3 yrs or something...turns out, I miscalculated, now I am dealing with anxiety. Its more like, not again!!! The throwing up, mood swings, you name it- just feel like its too soon...
Anyway I will keep my baby, but how do I get past the initial anxiety and try to be happy about it, and actually look forward to the LONG 9 months!!!!

Answer 1

Well I know where your coming from...I have an 8 month old son and I`m 19 1/2 weeks pregnant!! My due date is 3 weeks from my son`s 1st b-day!! I was feeling the same way..OMG another one ?? Already?? I love my daughter and son but was actually done..but God saw different I guess..I just felt I had just gotten done being pregnant and then I have to do it all over again? My first doctors visit I was able to hear the heartbeat and I honestly just melted all over...and when I seen my little baby on the ultrasound a few days later, I was in love all over again!! And now as I sit here typing this and feeling him/her kick me,I`m so happy..I know everything happens for a reason and a baby whether planned or not is a blessing...I hope you feel better once you get a little further along...Hey one good thing about then being so close is, my pregnancy is flying by!! I`m so busy with my son the days just go by so fast!!! Good Luck and Congrats to you!!

Answer 2

I am the middle of 7. Neither of my parents has worked in over 18 years.
My two older sister were born 1 year, 2 months, and 8 days apart.
My older brothers are just two years apart (i think...I don't know the second oldest's age for sure...)
My dad is the middle of 9. One of my aunts and one of my uncles are twins.
Be happy you're not having twins.
At least you're not a teenager.
You've had a kid already, so you know what it'll be like when the baby comes.
Just be glad you aren't in my family. If you were, you'd be popping out babies almost every year.

I hope this has helped you to overcome at least some of your anxiety and helped you realise that it is not quite as bad as it seems. :]

Answer 3

I HATED being pregnant. with a passion!! lol I never understood the women who said they loved it!

We were hoping to conceive our second child when our son was about 9 months. we thought 1 1/2 years between children would be a fun age span as they grew older. We hoped it would enable them to form close friendships with each other.

So when I found out I was pregnant when our son was ten months old, you would imagine I was over-joyed...right? wrong! Suddenly all the horrible memories of pregnancy; the vomiting, the sore breasts, the waddle walk, not being able to roll over in bed...all the memories I had apparently been suppressing came flooding back and I found myself feeling very much the same way you are feeling. And our pregnancy was totally expected!!

Don't get down on yourself, once you are through the first trimester, you will have three blissful months of peace before your tummy starts getting uncomfortable :) (that's at least what I keep telling myself! lol) And when you see your precious child for the first time, it will all be worth it!

Answer 4

Well Congrats- eventhough it is unexpected it is still a blessing. It is stressful having a child not planned for but remember that once that baby is born nothing else will matter. Congratulations again and take care. :)

Answer 5

The first 3 motnhs are the hardest aren't they?
Just need to relax. Try not think of how stressful it is/will be. Think of all the good times you had with your first. And think of how your older child can help with the baby and watching them grow together.

Answer 6

I think of it as not being unexpected, with each time I have sex I assume that there was a very real chance of me being pregnant. So was I really shocked to find out that I was with child again, not really. Change the glass and you will like the view better. ;)