I have a friend that I met online over MSN messenger. We've been friends for at least 6 months now but lately it seems like she doesn't want to talk to me anymore. When I say something to her, sometimes she will say "brb" and then never comes "back".
The other night, I told her I was going to bed. After I logged off, a little while later I decided to stay up so I came back. When I logged back in, I could see that she was online, and then I guess she saw me log on because she suddenly changed her status to "Busy".
Today I asked her what has been going on, and she told me that she has been going through a hard time. She doesn't want to talk about it, and anytime I try, she gets annoyed or mad at me.
I feel bad if I don't at least try to help, but I don't know what to do. A long time ago, she told me that no matter what, she wanted us to be able to tell each other anything, and she says she still does, but she doesn't feel like talking about herself.
2007-03-13 15:15:02 · 14 answers · asked by Odysseus J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
By the way, we briefly toyed with the idea of dating but decided against it. Her dad told her that she wasn't allowed to talk to me after that (I don't really blame him... internet predators and all) but I guess he changed his mind or something. The other day he was online on her account, and I talked to him for a while. He seemed to be okay with me still being on her messenger friends.
2007-03-13 15:17:32 · update #1
I just don't know what I can do to help her when she won't talk to me about it. She told me to just "leave her alone for a month or so" while she sorts it out, but... I don't know.
2007-03-13 15:18:23 · update #2
yeah, hey, you can stop it with the "you don't know her, it's just an online friendship". Online friendships can be just as real as physical ones and this one was.
2007-03-21 11:34:30 · update #3
Hi!!!
Well it seems to me that you are getting to concern about a person you hardly know!!! If she doesn't want to tell you her situation or problems there is nothing you can do.
As far as you being on line with her father there is no way to find out for sure if that was her father for real or not.
Step back, let things go, the more you ignore this the more time you will have to be on line, or meet someone else that truly deserve you being concern and to whom you can share everything!!!
Just ignore her and her situation, the worst scenario would be that she is lying to you, and that si the reason why she gets mad and upset at you leaving you just with a "brb".
You know what?? Help yourself and forget about her moods. One day is ok, and the other not??? Find new friends that can be true to you.
GOD BLESS YOU & HAPPY LIFE
A.Z.
2007-03-13 15:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm. Well I would definitely put the notion of dating her aside. It's alot of fun to get to know someone online, but there really is no way to know the full extent of what is going on in this person's life, when you only know them online, and havn't had a chance to know them in person. It does certainly sound as though she is going through "something", and she has an entire life that you are unaware of. For some reason or other, she is uncomfortable turning to you in this situation. They say that if you want to have a friend, you must first be a friend, if the roles were reversed, how would you want her to handle it? If it were me, I think that I would send one, and only one, email or message. I would say (briefly) how much I like her, and what her friendship has meant to me, and thank her for the time she has spent with me. I would say that I am worried and concerned as a friend, that I understand that she is going through something heavy right now, and that the door is open, and I am waiting if she ever wants to talk about it, or anything else, that the friendship is still there, and waiting, if she should want to return to it. And then I would BACK OFF. Leave that ball in her court, if she ever wants to bounce it back to you she may, but also move on with your life, until if and when she is ever ready to join you in it again. Have I ever had to do that before? Yes. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't if it's meant to be, it will. Good Luck...
2007-03-16 11:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by beatlefan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet relationships or friendships are not real, once a person realizes that...they move on, leaving the other one hanging dry. You don't know much about this person but what she tells you and she thinks the same of you, I guarantee you....
She realized she needed someone she can see and talk to and argue with....etc...so she will put you on the back burner..is what I call the brb......
Must either get another friend, or go get one in person, then talk to her online at least she will know for sure you are really there....
2007-03-20 13:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life has way of working Things out. Let me tell you a short story of when I was 13. This pretty girl had just moved to town from New Jersey(I'm in California)I did everything but kiss her feet. At our 40th Year Re-Union, she told me that she was getting her 5th divorce, and had five (no control) kids. Oh Buddy, am I glad. I married my sweetheart in High School, we had seven (7) children, and now have 14 grand-children. I graduated in 1959, we still hold hands, and do everything together. Our 48th will be in August. Good Luck !!
2007-03-18 22:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by fuzzypetshop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhhhhhhh Mannnnnnnnn I am so sorry. I just hate that.
She has another life that she is not telling you about. She is using you, to some extent. From experience, let it be. That way, you won't get hurt. You have too move on.
You are getting the bums brush. {Sorry aussie saying}
So, easy too have a different life over the internet.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 10:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone shes telling you too read between the lines she doesnt want to talk to you right now if she decides later that she wants to talk let her im you first dont be pushy cause that will only push her away
2007-03-20 03:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by Christina R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you understood what she told you. Let me spell it out in capital letters:
SHE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT AND WANTS YOU TO LEAVE HER ALONE FOR A MONTH WHILE SHE SORTS HERSELF OUT.
How much plainer does she have to be? Respect her wishes and see how things shake out.
2007-03-21 18:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think shes found a new guy to talk too . its a girl thing you tell the guy on line anything you lead him on shes got a new guy so i guess you need forget her and make new friends.
2007-03-21 21:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by beth b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be hard but give her that time respect her to give her space if you two are really friends she will come around and feel you in with whats been going on.
2007-03-21 20:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by tiff b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth you need to leave her alone and forget her you don't really know her and she dosn't know you and anyways it probly wasnt her father it was probly her saying it was her dad so u wld still tlk 2 her but her dad probly dosnt know so wrd from the wise leave her the heck alone
2007-03-21 18:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋