I am afraid my hubby will spill on a secret i have been keeping for years.My hubby and i dated for 2 yrs in college but i waited 8 months to tell him i had a child from a prior relationship out of fear it would be a turn off.When i did tell him it caused a 2 month break but everything was fine after that smooth sailing.Four months ago my son moved in.My hubby asked if i new who the father was i said yes but that no one else new not even his bio-dad.My hubby and i are from the same area though different towns.I was not aware that when he wanted info about my past that he new my son bio-dad from highschool.He got angry and left what can i do?
2007-03-13 15:02:55 · 11 answers · asked by Alissa S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have only been married for only 6 months . I dont get why he is so mad?
2007-03-13 15:05:59 · update #1
I did not lie he never asked before about the past!
2007-03-13 15:09:52 · update #2
....you got 21 answers to this question 17 minutes ago; the majority of them saying the same thing, YOU screwed up, by LYING to him to begin with; you can ask this again in another 17 minutes and every 17 minutes thereafter, it is not going to change the fact you LIED about a big thing, a CHILD, not to mention the fact you neglected to tell him the father was one of his high school buddies........
That is the most ridiculous rationalization I have ever heard; oh no wait, I heard that from my 8 year old before, then she was taught that not telling everything is the same as lying....she's 22 now and an upstanding productive NON-LYING member of society.
2007-03-13 15:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first mistake was waiting 8 months to tell him you should have told him first thing. Each man is different some men don't mind other men's children some do. If you love someone there can be NO secrets because the person you marry should be your best friend and accept things like children. Hopefully he might come back but each day there will be a reminder that you kept a secret from him and a child is a very big secret. I'm curious what would you do? How would you feel?
2007-03-13 22:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lying and not providing a full disclosure are one and the same. If you know something that could possibly cause a conflict in your marriage and you say he never asked me about it so why should he be mad by finding out on his own - where's you logic in that? What if he had an affair with your hairdresser before you two met and thought as long as you never knew it, it was okay that you befriended her? You must be honest in marriage about everything.
2007-03-13 22:15:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know i am not a guy but here goes... You need to take him on the Maury show and be totally honest with him no matter what and take a polygraph test if need be. You will need to let his bilogical father know about him and prove it as well. This is not fair to the real father either. You have been very deceptive and wrong in doing this to your husband and to the father of this child. I feel you should do everything possible you know how to do to try and make it right now.
2007-03-13 22:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You women and your past secrets. Always come to your marriage in complete honesty, if you can't, then you can't really be upset when your hubby returns the favor. ;-)
2007-03-13 22:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but my hubby would say that you're deceptive. Starting a marriage off on lies isn't good. Why didn't you tell him?
2007-03-13 22:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to run if you dont see the reason why he is upset with you. 8 months till you even told him you had a kid???? Holy cow
2007-03-13 22:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by hlind28 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You keep misleading him!
Hell do yourself a favor and get some dick on the side!
Yes I said it dick on the side, because hell your marriage is over anyway.
So enjoy!
I hate my life, and all of you!
2007-03-13 22:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by disturb m 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are deceptive. That's the one thing a man does not want----a liar wife.
Keeping things from him is being deceptive.
2007-03-13 22:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing you can do, why do you play games in life? of course your husband is ripping mad--you held out all of the truth for power--so now you're alone, feeling powerful?
2007-03-13 22:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋