2007-03-13 14:59:41 · 18 answers · asked by Angie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd divorce him....simply put. Once the trust is gone, it's gone for me!
2007-03-13 15:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by Incognito 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Been there, done that. I got a divorce from him. Once you loose that trust in someone, you can never get it back. There is no excuse in the world for cheating on your mate. If you are not happy in the relationship, then get out, don't cheat. That applies to women and men.
I read some of the other answers that you have gotten. One answer that you got....well I have to disagree with it....it was that she would go after him, then go after the women. What is the point in that. # 1 Did he tell her that he had someone at home or was seeing someone else? No...well then it is his fault. # 2 If he did tell her about you then what does that make both of them? You got it, so they are both at fault. People seem to always go after the one that their partner cheated with. In my books neither one of are worth the sweat on my brow, I'm sorry.
But seriously, once anybody cheats on their partner, you can never get that trust back again. There is always going to be some doubt in you mind somewhere as to what they are doing when not around you.
I am no spring chicken either, I have been with a few loser's in my life. People for some dumb reason or other seems to think it is cool or ok to cheat. It is not ok and it is not cool. Not every body does it. The ones that do it are not very smart at all, thinking that they will never get caught. If they cheat they are liars as well.
2007-03-13 22:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd talk to him. Figure out why he was cheating. If it was purely sexual, maybe it's something we can work past. If he fell in love with someone else, well, I guess I'd have to let him go. I would ask him to choose between us, and trust would be a huge issue. But, if he had a good explanation that I could agree with (ex. I had been "cold" with him for a year, or we lived in different parts of the country), I could definitely work with that. Depends where we are in our relationship and if either of us is willing to work what was wrong.
2007-03-13 22:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by 1978girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That would be a perfect moment.
I'll act like I never found out; squeeze every penny out of him. Max out all his credit cards. Buy myself all the new outfits, bags, and manolo shoes I can. Rent myself an apartment with the first years worth of rent from our joint account and rent it far far far away from him. Send all my new stuff to go there. Take anything of value in the house; including his ring while he's showering. Leave a note where the computer screen should be saying "Paybacks a bit$h.. Lets hope blondie will be waiting for you with open arms.. I'v moved on. I'v known for a month. I used and abused you. (yeah sorry about the towel; I needed to complete my Blue collection!) Have fun with your new life; because I know I'm already enjoying mine. By the way thanks for leaving the keys on the table. Have a nice life"
I would take the car and sell it to an autobody shop for its parts; take that money and head on home!
And I would NEVER ever ever ever DIVORCE HIM!!! If he wants divorce he can file and pay the fees himself; I'll force him chained to me for as long as I can. How's that for freedom!
2007-03-13 22:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by thepenpal 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Decide if I can live with it or not. If I can get over it and it won't happen again, I try to work it out. If I'm always going to wonder what he's doing and who with, I cut the rope and let him sink. Personally, I think I'd let the fool that was messin' with him have him.
2007-03-13 22:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Research, there many reasons that a man will do this, most cheaters are in happy marriages. The better the marriage the more likely the man is to cheat.....WTF.......probably has nothing to do with you. what you do depends on how much you love him and how much you value your marriage......if he does it more than once he's not worth it.
2007-03-15 01:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing i would do would be to confront him about it and tell him that i know what he is doing to the marriage. I would ask and want to know why and i would see if he is sorry or not and if he still would want to be with me and work on the marriage or not. If he was sorry and wanted to work on the marrige i would try to forgive him and get help for the marriage But if he wanted to be with someone else and want out of the marriage i would let him go and move on with my life without him even though it would be painful and hard to do so. I would also pray about this and ask God for guidance and wisdom in what to do as well.
2007-03-13 22:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Seriously consider those feelings I have been harboring about that Hottie at the gym.
2007-03-13 22:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would defnitely look at myself & realize it's time to make a move toward taking care of myself & getting the heck out of dodge. trust has now be violated!!
2007-03-13 22:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by ms_debbieg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave, file for divorce and take all of his money with me. He's the bastard that cheated, take him for all he's got!
2007-03-13 22:19:07 · answer #10 · answered by Violation Notice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋