My husband is always accusing me of cheating on him, even though i am not. He is starting to make me feel like he is guilty of something and the other day he told me i needed to leave. Then today he fell asleep and when he woke up he told me that he had a dream about cheating on me with a co worker of mine. What does this all mean?
2007-03-13 14:42:27 · 17 answers · asked by BrandyB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most of the time when somebody is accusing you of doing something for no reason that means it is the guilt of what they are doing coming thru. They think that if they are doing it you are to. This is not always the case however so you need to investigate a little further into the situation. Also ask yourself questions like have I stopped having sex with him or started seeming more unhappy with him is there any dramatic change in your relationship the might cause his insecurities. If not then is he changing his habits, taking more consideration with his appearance, going out more often, staying late to work, not wanting to have sex with you. If you find he is cheating on you?? You know what you need to do. If not you guys may need to get some sort of counseling for this because this behavior can become very unhealthy for a relationship if left unattended.
2007-03-13 23:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is either he is sick or something is going on behind his accusations. You need to revisit your relationship. Have you neglected him the past days? Is he getting the love and attention you used to used to give him? That little things that mean a lot., like kissing, embracing, touching lovingly? Have you taken him for granted or have your passion in bed waned? If your answer is yes, then you better make up before it is too late.
If your answer is no, then it is just a man"s usual trick and antics. He might be doing what his accusation is. Beware. Use all your "wife"s hunch and third eye"
If not among the two, he might need medical attention. Your might as well take him to an expert.At any rate, play your cards intelligently.
2007-03-13 22:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by september 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the guilty party does accuse the other of the same thing. My husband did this to me and low and behold it was true, he did cheat on me. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. God will protect you and guide you in which ever way He wants you to go. It is hard, it is going to be the hardest thing you will ever go through. But you are not alone. And if he is doing the ultimate betrayel to your marriage then you do have every right to divorce him. If not and you want to work it out and he comes to his senses then read the book Created To Be His Help Meet. It is written by Debbie Pearl and it is wonderful. It has saved my life. Good luck!
2007-03-13 21:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by vvvlambert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what it means cause I been there! This means that he is guilty of cheating on you or he has cheated on you and wants to put all the blame on you. He wants you to feel guilty over something that he has done. I been there and done that so I should know. You need to ask him questions or leave him. He is cheating and wants to have a reason to leave you so he makes it seems like you are doing it to leave you alone so he can be with his mistress.
2007-03-13 21:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Hester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he is cheating on you....his "dream" was his way of half-*** telling you what he is doing. He asked you to leave so he doesn't feel bad about cheating on you....you can either 1) try to work things out or 2) ask him to leave. I do not know if there are children involved or not, but if there are kids, it will be harder for one of you to leave. He figures if you leave, then he can justify things better in his head. Do not leave...have him leave. I wish you the best
2007-03-13 21:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though he's feeling guilty about something, and he thinks that accusing you will make things right. If he's not already cheating, he's not far from it.
2007-03-13 21:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by Belinda J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
usually when a spouse accuses the other of cheating he is the one doing the cheating, and by asking u to leave he is wanting to end the relationship with u, he wants u to leave so he can be with the other woman he is cheating with behind your back. he is having strange dreams about his cheating, its his subconscious bothering him. my ex accused me of cheating, i wasn't, he told me to get out, i refused because it was my home too, than a few months later he left, and the Truth came out, he had been the one cheating on me and he wanted me to leave so he could get the house and say i had abandoned it.
2007-03-13 21:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personal experience... not husband, but 4 year boyfriend. He's cheating. Don't walk... RUN.
2007-03-13 21:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by mixikitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh sounds like he has trust issues, has he been hurt by someone else in the past that has cheated on him?
2007-03-13 21:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband did the same thing because HE was the one cheating. I think your husband is a jerk and I would evaluate that coworker of yours.
2007-03-13 21:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋