I was wondering if anybody who is a pregnant teen or teen mother could tell me what their expeirience has been like...good?...bad?...what difficulties have you gone through and is it all worth it...opinions from anybody please
2007-03-13 14:35:55 · 9 answers · asked by *Mariah* 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I hope it is okay that I am answering, as I'm not a teen mother. I'm a mother though, and I have worked with teens... both pregnant and not. I also taught abstinance for three years and learned a lot from the girls who where already moms.
Even as a 34 year old mother of a seven year old, and a six month old, I'm exhausted. Being tired is part of it no matter your age. But remember...God says children are a blessing. If you are already pregnant, your circumstances may be rough, but with God's help you can do this thing. And do it well.
If you are not pregnant, but considering getting pregnant, listen to the girls who posted above. It is hard. And according to them both...timing could have been better.
There is lots of help out there for you. Pregnant or not. Please contact a counselor at a pregnancy resource center in your area. They can help you answer all the questions going through your mind. Also can help with parenting classes and formula, diapers, carseats, etc. Those places are great, and full of women who care about you, and your baby.
I pray you have sucess in your situation!
2007-03-13 15:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by G.I. Jill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 and I have twin 3 year olds. Got pregnant at 15 became a mom at 16. It has been very hard. I did graduate from high school and I have been taking college courses though I am not a full time student. My parents helped me a lot and I was living at home until this January, I also had a lot of family help me. Money has always been a little bit of a problem but I have refused to go on welfare, as I want to do this myself, I have had jobs, but at the moment I am staying at home and it is great! And we have always gotten by. And right now my boyfriend (their dad) has a great job. But the past 3 years have been the best and the hardest years of my life. Being a mom this young made me grow up a little too soon and I did not get to "enjoy" my teenage years but would I change any of it...No I would not. I love my daughters so much and I would give them the world and I try.
2007-03-13 22:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 20 now and have 2 sons aged 3 and 1. I am married to the father of both my children and we are very happy.
My husband and I both study full-time. My hubby is an internal uni student studying Ba. Human Movements/Ba. Ed. He is also working part-time as a Personal Trainer. I am an external full time uni student studying Ba. General Studies/Ba. Teaching. Its hard juggling uni and family life. We both want the best for our children so we are trying to show them the importance of study and overcoming obstacles.
No matter how much more difficult life is having children, it is definately worth it. I would never change the way life has worked out for me. I'm as happy as I could possibly be. However, if a young girl asked me if she should do the same, I would say absolutely NO. Be young, be care free, establish yourself as an individual first.
If you are a pregnant teen you need to be strong and mentally capable for the the future. You face disapproval, stares, and parenthood. It's not easy, but definately worth the love that you recieve.
2007-03-13 23:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by ♥yummy~mummy♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had my first child when i was 17, i was very lucky and went to an alternative school program that tought us about raising babies and children and had a wonderful daycare, I am 23 now and have another daughter, I married there father also. I wish I would of waited and went to college and got a good paying job, but money isnt everything I work full time at a local nursing home as a cna, its a very demanding and tiring job and low pay, but I love my children and feel like I am a wonderful mom. I would never advise teenagers to get pregnant, but if it happens you gotta make the best of your new life.
2007-03-13 21:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two children and they are the light of my life. But I'm not a teenager. I am a grown woman with university education, a career and a live-in daddy. But my son was born while my husband was serving in Iraq and the first part of his life (son's) was really difficult for me. Being a single mom, while not impossible, is not easy
Teenaged parents have a much more difficult time raising socially and emotionally healthy children than do adults. It has to do with perspective, life experience and education. At 14 you do not have much of any of these. And the boyfriends usually don't hang around. Don't count on child support from them, as they work at Mcdonalds for minimum wage. And babies cost big bucks!!!
Additionally, teenaged moms typically raise their children in poverty, and the children have a greater incidence of being abused, behaviour problems in school, underaged drinking (yes, this is a problem), drug use, teenaged pregnancy, run-ins with the law, illiteracy, depression, suicide...sounds like fun for a child?
There are other options.
2007-03-13 22:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard at sometimes, my boyfriend didnt help me during the nights which really hurt cause i was so tired all the time. Healing up after the birth wasnt great. Um getting ready to go back to school after the 6 weeks was up was hard i missed her during the day. I didnt get much sleep. Now that she is older i cant do near as much stuff when i was younger. Its hard but you learn to live with you, cause you have to no one else is going to take of the child but you you're their mother no one else. I have to say its been good and bad the bad parts when shes sick or doesnt feel well and the good seeing her smile each day!
2007-03-13 21:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by [[<3]] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well iam 16 n pregnent iam due in september n iam very lucky to have the support of my family n my boyfriends family as well as my boyfriend everything is going well so far but i decided to go to an independent study program just to not be pressured at regular school the thing that is going to suck is that when this baby is born i will not be able to just up n leave cuz now iam going to have to find a babysitter then worry if my kid will be fine n iam also getting fat n i feel really ugly n i fight alot wit my boyfriend on where we will live n how we will raise this kid o n i have to figuere out if i can get on welfare o medicare n wic n i still cant do anything witout my mom iam very scared about my future n my babys future n wut about school money n so on
2007-03-13 22:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by coco puffs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had my baby at 19 but was already married and husband was 22 and made enough money to support us fully so i had an atypical teenage pregnancy but it has been fully worth it and i am not having any more but if given the chance to do over would do everything all over again. i did have a difficult pregnancy though with toxemia and hospitalization and my daughter was delivered premature but i grew up alot from the experience
2007-03-14 00:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never been pregnant and i haven't had sex bfore but if i were you i would not have sex until i was married like i am going to do
2007-03-13 22:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Autumn B. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋