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Question

I really love my boyfriend and I think that he loves me too. We have been together for about 3 years now. Well, the thing is that there are at least 3 girls that call him all of the time. Whenever I am with him, he never picks up, but I know that he returns the calls as soon as he is able to when I am not with him. Well, recently, I have been having a strange feeling that he is trying to get out of calling me at night to talk to them or to one of them. We have always talked at night, to say goodnight or to just talk about our day. I really want to talk to him about it but I don't know how if I don't have the proof that I need to bring it up. I was trying to think of ways to figure out if he is really talking to them at night, but I can't seem to come up with any. What should I do? Any advice is very helpful.

Answer 1

dump him!

Answer 2

Get together with him, over coffee, soda pop, and dessert, or something. You can tell him that communication is very vital in any relationship, including yours. You could also mention to him that you have noticed "little" changes in him, like the good night calls, etc. And that when you are with him, and these gals call, and he doesn't answer. You can also let him know you appreciate your time with him, and his not answering the calls, however, you two need to talk about these other gals. Is he just friends with them, or dating them? How does he feel about his relationship with you? Break up, or just slow down, open up to both dating more than each other for a time, see how it goes? I don't know what his answers will be. Just please be prepared for whatever his answers are. I wish you the best. Take care.

Answer 3

Honestly that rubs me the wrong way. Ok let start off by saying that I am a hurt woman who loves a man who she can't be with and I am in the process of healing. Now back to your subject if this man chose to be with you in a relationship well he owes you respect and fidelity. How do you talk to him or what should you do? Well it is plain and simple you simply talk to him and ask him. Now you have to build your strength up and know that things can either go your way or you can find out the truth either way you need to know. I hope that you can find out because living in doubt is no way to live. You don't deserve it! Pray and believe in god and know that he does not put things in your path that you can not withstand. I will pray that things come out right.

Answer 4

I don't feel right about this. If you have suspension then you should at least talk to him about it. Don't let it linger. You don't need proof to tell your boyfriend that you don't like that three girls are calling him and that you don't like that you guys don't talk at night anymore. Alot of guys are hypocrites, if you were to have three guys call from your phone and then not talk to him at night like the regular regime he would be upset, but they dont understand that things and switch easily...Only when it happens. Talk to your boyfriend, if you bottle it up it will explode and the situation will get worse.

Answer 5

I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL!!! Me and my ex were together for three years and we had this problem too. We feel asleep together on the phone everynight so we could be the last thing on eachothers mind and the first thing in the morning. the last six months of our relationshop things were getting very serious with is. We were engaged and planning our wedding.

He kept getting calls from his "friends" and would put them under guys names in the phone book. I finally has enough of it and asked to see his phone. I called the numbers and talked to the girls who told me that they had no idea about me and they were hooking up with my finace.

So my suggestion would be to ask him about it and the second he gets defensive.....he is up to something. Ask to see his phone and call the girls in front of him while it is on speaker....have him talk to them and see what they say,

hope your relationship ends up better than mine

"you might not get to choose the way you die, but you get to choose the way you live"

Answer 6

if your boyfriend has a yahoo messenger id, or aim or msn, go on his id (if you know his pw..and if you don't know his pw, lemme know, i can hack his id for you if you want)..anyways..you can sign on his id and see if those three girls are there on his list..if they are then talk to them pretending you're your boyfriend and see what's up..be all flirty with them and see what they say and do .. and be like "did you have fun talking to me last night" and if she says "yeah" then you know that they have talked and if she says no then you know that they havent talked..and then this way you can be like "oh ____ (ur name) was annoying me so much today.." and then see what she says in reply to that..with these types of convos you can get a feel for what his conversations are with that girl and wat kinda girl is she and wat their relationship is

if that doesn't work then anytime he's not around but his cell phone is, then you can note down the numbers of those three girls and call them urself

if that doesn't work then you can ask your boyfriend straight out of wat his relationship is with the girls..i mean really when you think abt it since you're going out you dont need any proof ..if a guy is fliriting with some chicks then you have the right to be mad and blame him..if he gives you the **** abt "oh how can you doubt it" be like "i can doubt you because of the suspicious behavior you're putting forth and because all these calls that you're avoiding" tell him that if he was really into you and didnt like those three girls and wanted to ignore them, then he would answer their calls in front of you and tell them to leave him alone and stop calling..and if it were just friends then he would pick up and talk to them..i mean my boyfriend is the school jock so he has alota gal friends but since they're just his friends he picks up their calls in front of me and usually he does speaker phone so i can hear wat they're talking abt..i mean you should have that kinda trust in ur relationship..and it goes both ways cuz when my guy friends call, i do the same thing and let him in on the convo (unless its abt girly stuff or personal stuff abt ma friends)

anyways if he still doesnt give you a straight answer, then you have no reason to be with him because it is never good to stay with someone who is unfaithful ..and i know you can do better

oh and by the way, think about it this way: if you switch the scenario and lets say you're the one gettin calls from three diff guys...do you think he would tolerate that a bit for even two secs? i doubt it..he would dump your *** immediately and he would prolly be upfront and brutal in asking you abt all this and so if he would do that to you i think you have the same right reserved to you

anyways..good luck and lemme know if you need any more help or need me to hack his id lol..take care

Answer 7

No wonder you're using the name sad n' lonely; I would be, too, if I thought the man I loved was just waiting for me to exit so he could chat it up with other girls. If he loves you, he surely has a shakey, suspicious way of showing it. Hate to say it, but it sounds like, get ready: He's just not that into you. Look elsewhere. Get busy; get happy,

Answer 8

the thing is if you really love the guy trust him-but my mother told me you may also trust your instincts-talk to the guy but i bet he'll tell you things you wanna hear just to appease your fears.stop sleuthing-if you feel he is _?#___ng around-he is not meant for you..

Answer 9

talk to him about it tell him how you have been feeling. tell him that u dont feel comferatable with him talking to them even though u no theres nothing going one

Answer 10

ok first breath theen you do need to confront him proof or not thats how u feel

Answer 11

look at my question, if you can confront him do it early, I'm with my bf for 8 yrs..... I need to confront now