Were did you come from? Gays?

Question

i basically want to know were you came from familywise. Were you an only child, youngest, oldest, were your parents divorced. Stong mother figure, father figure. I just want to find the typical build for a gay or lesbian person, personally im gay and want to know why, i know i was born like this but want to see if there were any factors that led to this, Thankx in advance

well i know it just happens and please no stupid answers, "my moms womb?" r u kidding, thats just stupid

Thankx for the details guys, but people saying there are no indicators and all this science, i know there is, its just a question so i can see how the family lives TYPICALLY are, remember, im gay too and im not saying we werent born like this.

Answer 1

Im 20 years old. my parents have been married for thirty years and are still currently married and happy at that. My mother is striaght and so is my father. Had a pretty good childhood nothing majorly wrong happened. My dad worked two jobs for 25 years and my mother raised me and did typical housewife duties. I was an only child until i was nine and then my brother was born and then my sister was born when i was like thirteen. I am a Lesbian. but i am the kind of lesbian the used to be bisexual and just now prefers not to even mess with men for mental reasons and not physical. I personaly though believe that it doesnt matter what kind of family life and etc. that u have growing up.........its just something that happens....some people like porn some dont....some people like cats some like dogs......i mean no one that is straight tries to figure out why they are straight......they just know thats how it is and thats how they feel and likewise with me...i know that is how i am and what i like and thats all there is to it.....maybe u should stop wondering what made u that way and just be who u are because in the end ur not gonna be able to truely change it anyways so just deal with it and if anyone doesnt like you for who you are tell them to go jack off somewhere in a corner....and pray they nutt in their own eye....lmao

Answer 2

I was just a normal school boy like all my friends, but I also knew I was “different”. Then when I got to about 9 or 10 years old I knew why I felt different (because I’m gay). My earliest memory of being “different” was when I was about 6 years old. I don’t remember being younger than 6, so I’m not sure what I was thinking before that age.

I can’t think of anything that could have “turned me gay”. I was the middle child, but the other two are both straight. My parents didn’t have any gay friends, so you can’t say anyone influenced me. My mother is just a normal person (no domineering mother). I never had any sexual encounters or sex abuse, so again none of these things were a factor. I was brought up in a house with both parents.

I honestly can’t think of any reason why I turned out gay and others didn’t. There’s always been lots of “theories” on the subject, but I didn’t seem to fit into any of them.

That’s the reason I’ve always believed I must have been born that way. All I can tell you is I didn’t make a choice to be gay and there wasn’t any way I could change it. When I was a kid/teenager I would have done anything to be straight. I just wanted to fit in and be the same as all my friends. I tried looking at female porn, but it disgusted me. I tried praying several times a day, but again nothing. Eventually I realised that I couldn’t change, this was me and I was stuck with it. That’s why I find those religious people so hurtful, they don’t have a clue about homosexuality. They just want to be abusive and take great pleasure in telling people like me we’ll burn in hell (God knows the truth).

Answer 3

I am the the only boy and the youngest of 3 with two sisters and was born when my parents were in their 40's. Growing up people often mistook my parents for my grandparents. My parents were married for 55 years. By the time I was born 3 grandparents had already died with the remaining grandparent dying when I was 8. One sister was 23 years older than myself and the other sister is 15½ years older. The oldest sister was already married and had already given birth to my oldest nephew by the time I was born. The younger sister moved out of my parents house after marrying when I was 6, so I did not have any similar aged siblings growing up. My father had a dominant personality and my mother usually deferred to him.

Answer 4

25 f....I am not a lesbian. But I think I have a good idea on gays. My brother is bisexual (he says, but i think he thinks that is more accepting to say then just coming out being gay...he has yet to tell me personally, but has told my bf and my mom. I just don't ask like they do. I feel he will tell me in time when he is comfortable). He is 20. I have known he was "different" since he was a small child. I believe as well that gays are born gay. They do not chose it. My brother often was caught playing in make up and dressing up in my clothes and high heels...since he could walk. He is the middle child. We have a younger brother who is 17. 20 yr old is vain and "beautiful". He only associates with pretty people and is in his own eyes, perfect". He is high maintenance....wears eyeliner, pays for tans....buys designer clothes. The youngest brother....jock of all jocks. Stereotypical middle class jock. The three of us were raised equally by the same two parents. (up until la few years back when my father passed).
I conclude that family upbringing plays no effect on sexual orientation. HOWEVER....(my mother works with Aboriginals living with HIV/Aids) and she says that a high majority of the gay aboriginal men in our community have been sexually molested. Can you "Cause" homosexuality? Is it a learned behavior in some cases?? That's something to chew on.

Answer 5

well, as we all know, the "typical" stereotypes the bigots claim make us "turn" gay/lesbian are nothing but a crock.
I am the oldest of 2 (I have a brother 2 years younger). my parents were married 29 years until my father died nearly 16 years ago. both my parents were "strong" but I guess most would think my mom is stronger (but that has little to do with it). I was born in VA and moved to MO when I was 3 1/2...meat and potatoes Midwest girl. went to church/Sunday school every week growing up.
...but I'm anything but typical!

Answer 6

I am the youngest of three children, have two older sisters.
My parents are divorced and my dad was not the best dad he was some kind of an !"£hole, and still is. I dont think it affected my sexuality though, but maybe my confidence as a person; I find it hard to open my heart to people eventhough I am quite social. Yes, my family status has affected me in a negative way but I really dont think it has anything to do with sexuality. All gay friends I have come from normal families and they are even spoilt and out to all.

Answer 7

for some years i thought that there must be something that united all of us. In my case i know that i was born being gay, when i was a very small child, in school, at an age where i didnt think of sex at all, i remember that i felt attracted to other kids at school.
for some years i asked gay people if they knew whether their mothers before they were born had wanted to have a girl or a boy and in a lot of cases, it was a girl. But it is not conclusive since it was not in all cases, not even the 85%

Answer 8

People much smarter than me or you have spent entire academic careers trying to find some indicators. There are none.

If you want to know about me personally: Middle Child (thus the name) Middle class family ( see above). Good folks, strong family values (but not the phony kind... just the kind where you take in cousins who are down on their luck, and where we all show up for each other's baseball games.) One of my sisters is disabled. One is a genius.

Answer 9

I have a loving family, father and mother both alive, siblings two brothers two sisters (one desceased). Both parents made decisions in the family, we their children took those decisions as most kids of the late60-1980 did...as law. I grew up in a village with more cows than people, am the eldest child, I talk to trees and other living things(not kidding), and I tend to be on the plump side but most women I know are. I hope I've helped with your research.

Answer 10

I came from my mother. On my father side of the family I have 2 lesbian cousins and I'm the only gay male that's out.