I have gone out with this guy twice. We get along great but we made out on the first date and if I wouldnt have stopped him we would have had sex on the second. Heres the thing I am 20 and a virgin. I dont want to lose my virginity to some guy I barely know. Should i talk to him and if he pressures me just leave? I need this to slow down or I think I need to end it. I dont want just a physical relationship.
I dont necessarily want to wait until marriage but 2 dates is wayy too soon.
2007-03-13 13:55:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I agree. I would think very highly of a woman if she put out on the second date.To me that would show she doesn't have very high standards for herself.Someone that's just out for a quick hook up ain't worth the time if you are wanting some kind of relationship.
2007-03-13 14:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I almost made the same mistake you almost made. But fortunately the guy I was with liked me enough to not want to hurry into things. In fact his words were that we should wait and do this the right way when I was certain I was ready. (what a turn on that was!!!) You are right that the second date is way too soon. I think the mistake you made was that you made out on the first date. So if I were you, I would just be very candid with him and tell him that this whole thing is moving way too fast and you really need to slow things down. If he really likes you, he will be willing to wait you out. I know this is really old fashioned, but it is true: the girl is in charge. The things that happen are because YOU allow them to happen. You didn't say how old this guy was. If he is 20, like you, you should expect him to probably lose interest when you tell him that you need to slow down. Most 20 year old guys are still boys and are controlled by that 'one eyed monster'. If he is older, by that I mean 24 and up, he may be beginning to realize the value of a relationship with a woman other than just sex. ( which is what makes the sex really good for both of you ) (any sex is good to a 20 year old boy) I think you gave yourself you own good advice to just leave if he pressures you. The sex will never ever be good if you are pressured into it. You are just barely a young woman yourself. Don't hurry into any of this sex stuff. It will come along on it's on time. Somewhere out there is a guy that is just going to be blown away by you. Don't cheat yourself out of giving it away to someone who won't appreciate it. Be sure there is a high level of trust with whoever you go to bed with. This is so important in order for you to learn to enjoy sex. The first time is probably not going to be that great for you. It takes work for a woman to learn how to enjoy sex. It's not fair that it comes so easy for the guys. But listen up sistah, a guy may be good for a couple of rounds, maybe even three every once in a blue moon. But a girl who learns about her own body and can show a trusted lover the right moves, the pleasure can truly be never ever ending until she decides she's done. And it just becomes exponential when you reach your 30s. But you have to play your cards right and pick your lovers very carefully. Because you can really do damage by allowing some jerk to use you to get his cookies off. So slow down and treasure yourself.
2007-03-13 21:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by stevieray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! Its too soon. Good for you for waiting this long, not many people wait anymore. You should talk to him about how you feel and I would stop making out because hes going to feel led on. Tell him you want to take it slow and tell him that your not going to have sex with him anytime soon so if he really likes you hell respect that and if not then you know that he was just after one thing.
2007-03-13 21:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by alex77055 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want to sleep with him, for heaven's sake, don't! I think you should tell him how you feel about the matter, and if he throws a fit, you probably don't want him. Guys who will pressure you to do things you aren't comfortable with are not worth your time.
2007-03-13 21:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by ☭ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree, 2 dates is way to soon. after my wife and i started dating we didn't have sex till 5 months later. she is a good woman and i really respect her.
2007-03-13 21:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
i had sex on the 1st date one time and i ended up going out with him for a year
2007-03-13 20:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by *L-I-V-E* 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him. If he doesn't like it, it's better to find out now. There are plenty of guys who would be willing to wait. If he's not one of them, keep looking.
2007-03-13 21:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by Tiss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should wait, like u said it is way to soon, i mean have u ever heard of anybody having sex with somebody they dont know? well yeah but wat were the consequenses? did they want to do it again? think about, but for this time dont do it!!!!!!!! u need to cal down, and if ur that desperate use a adult toy, lol,u need to calm down.
2007-03-13 21:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by Double A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yup - be honest with him. Tell him that you have no intention of having sex with him anytime soon and see what he does.
2007-03-13 21:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will know when its right for you to give up your virginity--listen to your heart girl
2007-03-13 21:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by imneiflim 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋