When I was younger my parents used to fight alot. I been getting raped for most of my life. Several of my relationships have been abusive. I just want to live a regular life and graduate from college but I never seem to be able to finish my classes. Why is my life so messed up? I refuse to get counseling because I don't want to be labeled as crazy.
2007-03-13 13:54:07 · 11 answers · asked by gangsta ma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know for me personally, "I" was the common issue. I looked for the same men over and over, I saw others as having control over my actions, I was not really able to see my role in a series of bad issues. College does not fall into your lap, and a "regular" life has to be your true focus. I really only felt content in chaos and drama. Its hard to change but "you" are the key.
2007-03-13 14:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by mizzmel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to realize is that nothing that has happened to you is your fault. I was sexually abused my whole life and I know what it's like feeling as though you have no purpose. That when you start something you just can't finish it. Well, it's hard to finish something now when the problems in your past won't go away. Psychological therapy isn't for eveyone. But counseling does not mean you're crazy. Even though you haven't realized it you are seeking the counsel of someone else right now by asking this question.
Don't be afraid there are thousands of people out here just like you. I have been on my own since I was 18. Fresh out of a children's home. I had to figure out life and had no one by my side to help. I was a survivor. But everytime I wanted to settle down and just live life I had this overwhelming feeling to just pack up and leave. I am now 24 yrs old and have lived in 72 different homes and 12 different cities and 6 different states. All by myself. Some would think that as adventerous but really I was just running away. Recently I was engaged to a man I thought I could settle for but he turned out to be abusive. Always making me feel less of myself.
Once I realized this I got and decided I did need other people to dictate how I felt in life. I was going to live for myself. And once I made this decision my life began to unfold itself. I have lived in the same house for 2 yrs now and am in a wonderful healthy relationship. I am now on my way through college and working towards my Ph.D because it's what I want to do.
Stop trying to think about others and more of yourself. This is the first step to a brighter future. And no it's not selfish. When you start thinking more about what you want and what makes you happy the less negative crap will stay around. You will never be able to "get over" your past. It will always be there. But what you went through will make you a stronger person and help another like you get throught theirs. Good luck.
2007-03-16 17:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by txtoasty82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting counseling doesn't label you as crazy. In fact, since you've had such a tumultuous life it would label you as being smart enough to know you need to talk to someone and work through all the stuff that happened to you. Many, many people see therapists and counselors and no one even knows. You don't have to advertise it - but try it and you might find out that it will help you break the patterns in your life.
2007-03-13 21:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are not crazy. and getting help from a counselor doesnt always mean that you are too. you would be surprise how many average, normal looking people actually go to counseling. you have alot on your plate to deal with that may need professional help with getting past. i too have been raped when i was younger and after i was scared, angry, depressed, and nothing would make me feel better but after a few months of counseling, it was better. try not to rule out the idea until you have tried it because it may help you get past this bump in your road.
2007-03-13 20:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been getting raped you NEED to report them. Your parents fighting has nothing to do with you. You cant blame yourself for that. That is your parents realtionship, not yours. Listen to me, when someone doesnt have God in their life then life will be miserable. I am not saying that my life is great, Im rich, have everything I want and never go a day without being happy. If I did I would be lying. However, with God in my life I don't deal with things by myself. God is there to comfort me, to guide me. My past is not peachy clean, but God forgives me, I forgive me, and most importantly I forgive those who hurt me. The sin I committed I have repented of them, as a Christian, I made and change of heart. Everyday I struggle with temptation of sin, but since I am a Christian I know I have the Helper to guide me, the Holy Spirit. Listen, I am not trying to preached to you, just trying to relate. Trying to show you that Jesus is the way. This world is temporary and everything in it. When Jesus returns he will return for those who have obeyed him and the will of God. Let Christ in you life.
Hear - Romans 10:17
Believe - Mark 16:16
Repent - Luke 13:5
Confess - Romans 10:9
Be Baptized - Acts 2:38
Please read these scriptures. And if you need help Please call the Church of Christ that worships in Inglewood if you have any questions; 1 (310) 674-7690. You can visit the website at www.inglewoodchruchofchrist.org You can hear sermons on many topics of life.
2007-03-13 21:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by pooks2825 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody goes through life changes good or bad, God knows what your future hold other wise you wouldnt still be here. I see it like this Just pray and continue to pray and have the faith. Just beleive things will get better. trust the man above ma
2007-03-16 05:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Ant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who is going to label you crazy? you? who said you had to tell people you were getting counseling? you need it. you should be getting help right now.
2007-03-13 20:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get professional help, seriously!! This sounds like a much bigger problem than what can be fixed on Yahoo!!
2007-03-13 20:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by questionme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think ur crazy but counseling always helps!! take care every thing its gonna be ok!!
2007-03-13 21:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by notoriousb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything takes time
2007-03-13 20:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by *L-I-V-E* 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋