OK ill keep this short and sweet. there are people i have said or done mean things to unfortunately. I would like a chance to explain myself but i know from reliable sources that they would over react and wouldn't want to hear it. what should i do
2007-03-13 13:50:03 · 12 answers · asked by skinnerpride 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
by "explain myself" i meant writin a letter, calling, or any other obvious solution anybody is going to answer this question with....
2007-03-13 13:58:53 · update #1
ah, there's a problem with the email solution because sources also said she will show her parents even if its jus the littlest thing (we are only 13/14)
2007-03-13 14:06:41 · update #2
There's an old saying; Actions speak louder than words", don't talk, do something you know will show them what your trying to make up for. This way they know your not b.s'ing them. If they acknowledge the gesture then your point is taken all the more. If they ignore it, then you've done all you can and you shouln't feel bad anymore.
The ball will be in their court.
2007-03-13 14:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Stuka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently had the same ephiphany. What i have done and will continue to do is each time I run into one of the "offended" i tell them that I have had a life altering experience which pointed out to me that I had not been the best person I could have been and that I want to apologize to all I have wronged.And that I would love an opportunity to apologize for lousy behavior in the past. I tell each of them that I fully understand if they do not want to forgive me and that i totally want them to feel no pressure so if they would like to just tell me "no thanks" I can live with that too. So far, everyone has let me apologize and they seem to accept my sincerity. This was all I could think of to do. If anyone wont let me say sorry then I guess i need to understand that really bad behavior does not have to be excused no matter how sorry the person is. and that forgiveness is up to the one who has been wronged not to the wrong doer. Good luck -k-
2007-03-13 20:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that when there are cicumstances like this and the people don't want to hear from you that writing a short msg explaining how you feel may help and wether you send it by email txt or post don't sign it so they can see who it is from, put your name somewhere in the msg so that they read it before they figure out who it's from or you could stand up and be a man and take the brunt of their anger so that it is over and done with and then you can talk about it after they blow off their steam. Did you ever think that maybe this other person may be stirring the pot a bit??
2007-03-13 20:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No excuses just admit you were wrong and your sorry. You dont have to go into details. Just let them know it wont happen again and you learned from your mistakes.
They may not forgive you or understand but take the upper road and be a man about it. Forgive yourself to no one is perfect. good luck!
2007-03-13 21:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come clean and apologize... if they wont hear it in person write a letter or e-mail... and try to right the wrongs if you can...
even if they dont accept your apology at least your conscience will be clear.
best of luck.
2007-03-13 21:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by runningballerina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on you and your happiness. Let bygones be bygone and go on with your life with the people who you don't need to explain yourself to.
If they were truely your friends you wouldn't have to explain yourself and why you said or did these things. They would understnad and forgive you and accept you for your flaws. If they don't they are noot worth having around. I have been through this and my life is better with these type of people out of it. I moved on and am happy!
2007-03-13 20:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by questionme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
time heals all wounds! just give them some time to get over whatever you did, in the meantime look into what you just told us give yourself another chance to be good to people!!!
2007-03-13 21:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be the bigger person. go right up to them and tell them what you have to say and walk away. you dont have to wait around for a reply. good luck.
2007-03-13 20:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try 2 talk 2 them in person,over da phone, or just email dem
2007-03-13 20:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by latrell0132 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Write to them.
2007-03-13 20:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋