After the kids are 18 how do you stop having to deal with the ex? My husband's ex has found ways to continue causing problems for us. She finds excuses to send emails and continue the drama. How can we cut off all communication with her?
2007-03-13 13:47:06 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband will always have his kids in common with his ex, even though they may be 18 they will continue to need their parents for college, weddings, births, birthdays, etc. You need to support your husband and his children and not let her drama bother you, you are his wife and the one he is with now and if you ignore her and the drama, you will be the bigger person for it. Let your hubby handle the drama..
2007-03-13 13:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by M B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the ex and your husband have kids still living they will always have a common bond. It doesn't have to be any communication other than about the children though. You and your husband need to agree to contact her(together) and tell her that she is no longer a part of your husband's life. That ended in the divorce. She has not and will never be a part of your life. The only reason you will accept any communication is when it involves something serious about the kids(school, grand kids, drug or alcohol problem, pregnancy, etc.). Make it clear to her that you have your own lives to live and that doesn't include her. If you are annoyed with her and she hasn't backed off by now it's time to be very blunt and tell her to get out and stay out of your lives for good.
2007-03-13 21:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to her face that there is no reason for her to be involved with you 2 any longer and if she continues you will change your email, phone number, anything else. If it still goes on tell her you will put a restraining order on her! My husband has considered this many times with his ex. But we have about 15 more yrs of dealing with her unfortunately. Also, totally ignore her if you don't choose to change your email and stuff, just delete like my husband does after he forwards it to me, lol. And when she calls do not answer or block her number. I'm sorry you're going through this drama, we do also over here and it gets old and tiring but it hasn't caused any friction in our relationship, only brought us closer so her plan isn't working.......keep your chin up and do whatever you have to cut her out of your life! Good luck and take care =)
2007-03-13 21:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by Incognito 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do what I do and don't respond to any of her communication.
Any time she sends a text message or email I simply delete it and move on. I don't take any of her calls. Once the kids are grown there is no reason to communicate anymore.
2007-03-13 20:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said the answer - cut all ties with her. But only HE can do that, not you. If he doesn't cut the drama, she will continue. Better to look into why he puts up with it, rather than how you can stop it. Because you can't.
2007-03-13 20:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't respond to the emails. If the children are grown there is no need for further communication.
2007-03-13 21:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your email address. Do not accept her phone calls. Be proactive. Get caller ID, change the email address, and tell your kids not to give them to her, in fact, don't tell the kids the email address! I'm sorry, but women can be so evil, sorry you are going through this. What a neurotic b*tch!
2007-03-13 20:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that if it doesnt have to deal with the kids dont call. If she is nasty tell her youll put a estraining order on her. The kids would still be able to call whenever they want to
2007-03-13 21:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change email addresses and phone numbers. You can always file a restraining order against her. Bottom line, don't enable her.
2007-03-13 20:55:41 · answer #9 · answered by Gary M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if ignoring her would work.
Try being very involved in her life. : ) She may get the hint. Call her and ask questions all the time.
It may be too much to ask though...
Maybe changing email and phone number would be better.
2007-03-13 21:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by squeezy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋