Friend newly married. Husband overseas, never been to US. Waiting for immigration. She has learnt husband is doing webcam chatting (all nude sexual) and wants to meet those females in person. Husband has job stability problem too quits jobs frequently, takes forever to find a job.
She is devastated of nude chats, meeting etc. She is confused if the marriage can be worked on. Concerned what if he continues this kind of chatting activity after he gets here.
Can this kind of problem be worked on?
She feels all her friends are working on their marriages, she is confused if she should work on it or let it go for the long run.
2007-03-13 13:42:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's a piece of crap. They better get some kind of counseling before this gets worse. He has to want to change this behavior, if he doesn't, it won't happen. Don't brush it under the rug...it'll just come up later. My advice to you as a friend is to stay out of it. You do not want to be responsible for a possible divorce or any other consequences. The husband may find out and blame you. You need to stay out of it and let your friend deal with it. She was mature enough for marriage, now she needs to deal with grown up problems herself.
2007-03-13 13:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she let her husband know that this bothers her and that she wants to work on this and for him to stop this kind of behavior and nude chatting. To me if he really loves her he will stop and he will not stop if he does not care. If when he gets over here he stops then they should seek marriage counseling for this problem to help the marriage get better BUT if he does not warnt to stop and he keeps on doing it then no i do not feel it can be worked on divorce is the answer if he cannot be faithful and loving and sexual with and to his wife only. He is being unfaithful to her by doing this and i feel it is cheating as well.
2007-03-13 20:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to work on it; what good is letting him cheat on her for the long run going to do her if it upsets her so much. She may as well partake of it or start cheating herself; which is what typically happens when someone does let it go. If they're newly married, it doesn't take but a few months to figure out if it's worth continuing. It's real easy to split up in the beginning, but increasingly harder as time goes on ...
2007-03-13 20:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can be worked on if they want to work it out some ground "rules" and xpectations could be set they could tell each other the truth of how they feel and why they feel this way marriage is hard and will always need working on
2007-03-13 21:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by ppetss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are newly married and this is already happening this is going to continue to happen, I say drop him like a bad habit and get on with her life
2007-03-13 20:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea22306 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it can be worked on with a divorce lawyer. Run girl Run!
2007-03-13 20:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Newly married and having these problems already! I say dump him fast. He sounds like a loser to me.
2007-03-13 20:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a lying cheating piece of...nuff said. if she is that stupid to want to work it out. tell her to go overseas and work it out. dont bring him here. shes a fool. no wonder some men treat women like crap and thats because of women like her.
2007-03-13 21:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce now before it becomes a complicated international thing...
2007-03-13 20:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he using her to get into the US? Sounds like a jerk. I doubt he will suddenly change.
2007-03-13 20:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋