i want to run away. i cant stand my life. i dont know another way to resolve it. what are the consequences?
2007-03-13 13:25:57 · 9 answers · asked by dufjono 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
i am a teenager who has never gotten along with my mom. i dont know what else to do beside that. the only main thing i am scared about is going to juvi..HELP ME!
2007-03-13 13:35:39 · update #1
You could lose your freedom or your life. If you constantly run away and get caught you could be considered a juvenile delinquent. After sometime they might emancipate you, if it's in everyone's best interest--but believe me, don't grow up before you have to. Paying bills and living out on your own is no fun.
Alternative--keep yourself busy. Get involved in after school activities. Go to church, get involved in youth group. Find positive things to keep you busy. Get a job and work as many hours as allowed by law (as long as your school grades are willing)
Not many parents can argue with their child being an active participant in a positive activity. A judge would never dispute that. What a parent and a judge could dispute is a child with poor academics, a pattern of running away, and hanging out with your peers--not that it's bad to have friends but it isn't always seen as a positive or productive if you're a runaway.
2007-03-13 14:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by mll804 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to give more details so you can receive a bit of proper advice. You do not mention age or what the problems are. Many times when one is in a muddle it is merely a case of being unable to see the forest for the trees.
If you are young, running away is a sure way to lose yourself forever from yourself. Not just those you want to run from. Hiding leaves problems unsolved. Find a counsellor at school, a priest or minister, someone and ask for help. If it is truly that bad you will find a sympathetic ear and advice.
Running away is something you would regret as soon as the weather turns bad.
I think everyone has a time in their life when they would just like to shelf it all and take off but it is good we don't! Usually we either lump it or make changes to resolve the situation. It is not so bad if you have a confidante with wisdom to help you find that path out of the forest.
Good luck.
2007-03-13 20:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did it and I was lucky, I made it home safely, although I regret it and am really lucky I didn't get hurt, raped or killed. True you will gain some freedom, but it will include the freedom to be hungry, the freedom to not have a safe place to sleep and keep you stuff, the freedom to have sickos prey on you - I had all this happen, fortunately I was not harmed in the last case. The consequences are that you will hurt yourself and your family, when you come to your senses, the hurt will still be there (including your siblings). The consequences would be more mental than legal, but the hurt will be there.
I would suggest that you talk to someone you trust about this, like a counselor, trusted teacher, clergy, etc. I did it to get away from my mom, is your dad still around? Talk to him, man to man, maybe he can help. If your dad isn't around, talk to someone in authority, I feel for you man. One last thing, it may seem bad, but there are a lot of people out there who have it worse and are muddling though, you will be free and legal at 18!
2007-03-13 20:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by Yo it's Me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gain - likely nothing, a sense of accomplishment of doing things on your own (everything on your own), strong sense of fear (from being alone),
Lose - no education if you dont go to school, your parents, any other family, the rest of your childhood, the chance to be with the ones who love you the most in all the world (even if it doesnt seem like it sometimes)
Consequences - no family, no real friends, not much of a life if your always running, sometimes runaways end up dead.
These are just a few things to consider . . - listen your young and life seems hard sometimes - Someday you may no longer have family around and its gonna be hard not having your mom there to fall back on when things go wrong - hang in there and try to get along with family - they are the only ones who really care about you - friends arent always there for you like family can be. - Lost my dad last september - just lost a brother in law today in Iraq - Lifes too short to hate the ones you should love- Hope you can hang around long enough to enjoy some with you family.
2007-03-13 21:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by friendly advice from maine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Running away will make your life worse, not better.
At least with your Mom, she is putting a roof over your head, clothes on your butt and feeding you 3 meals a day, at the very least.
If you run away, you will have to depend on the kindness of strangers, and that ALWAYS comes with a price. The price is too high for you to imagine.
If you don't get along with your Mom, stay out of the house by doing constructive things: join school activities or get a job at the mall. Save your money and move out with her blessing.
Keep your grades up so you can get early admission to college. Live in the library and study study study. You'll be able to do your senior year in a dorm instead of with Mom, PLUS Mom will be proud of you.
2007-03-13 20:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents can cut off all financial support. So if they are paying for anything like a car, insurance, college, after school activities, you will be out in the cold. Literally. You are like almost every teenager in the world today and yesterday. Nothing has changed. Think hard on it.
2007-03-13 20:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have nothing to gain from running away. Consequences for running way will be the lost trust between you and your parents, the chances of going to a detention center.
2007-03-13 20:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what all you are leaving behind.. like family responsibilities, debts, etc.
everyone deals with adversity -- life doesn't get any easier if you run away. not knowing how desperate you may be i can only speak in generalities. try to hang in there and do what you can within the law to make a better life. there is a lot to be said for sticking it out and overcoming your problems.
best of luck.
2007-03-13 20:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by curious_One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to think about how the people who care about you would feel if you just ran away... besides I don't think that would really solve your problems...good luck, maybe get some therapy or something instead.
2007-03-13 20:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋