My fiancé rarely wants to have sex with me, and if it's good, we'll have sex once a week. If it's bad, it can go up to a month, which is very frustrating for me. I have tried to think of all the reasons for his lack of libido, as stress isn't a factor, neither is overworking. His thyroid might be a factor, but I'm wondering, when we go on holiday his sex drive is much higher. Neither of us have our own place, so the deed is usually done in his parent's house. Do you think this is the problem, even though I have no problem doing it there?
2007-03-13 13:15:44 · 13 answers · asked by potterfaerie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Apparently, a low sex drive can point to an underactive thyroid. We do communicate-a lot-but we don't see each other a lot in the week (we live 1 hr away from each other). It is very difficult trying to get him to see a doctor as men's egos are very fragile, especially where sex is concerned.
If it turns out that there's nothing that can be done, I'll just have to put up with it, because I'd rather have less sex and be with him than more sex and be without him.
2007-03-13 13:35:37 · update #1
While the location could definately be a problem, especially if you are under 18, it could also be physical or enviornmental. Maybe he's tired of always having sex in the same place, the same way. Try doing something different. Get him to give you a spare key or sneak through the window while everyone is gone. While the folks are out and just before he gets back, leave a trail of suggestive photos of yourself or hershey's kisses leading all the way to the bedroom. Or, get a room for the night! And of course, it's every man's boyhood fantasy to have sex in the back seat of a car. Of course the most sensible thing to do is ASK HIM WHY. If you can't communicate about your sex life, then you won't be able to communicate through marriage and then you'll just be another divorce statistic.
2007-03-13 13:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by alfeebester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a Fancy world you sound like such a immature young lady you will not be happy without the sex you want. hey you been told all you are going to do is just like I did get in the middle of the relationship with kids and all then realize you can handle not having the sex you want. I was stupid and you are stupid it won't work. But go ahead and be selfish but you will be another statistic.
2007-03-14 00:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess it is your home. It is common that on vacation libido rises. And in own house it is just too much. Try a neutral place close to home. If it works then you know what the problem is.
2007-03-13 20:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the thyroid have to do with the location ? Oh the location of his parents home; well in that case. He is paranoid of them hearing you grunt and yell outloud when he starts pounding that pudding of yours.
2007-03-13 20:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by dr.ashley.proctologist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Location could possibly have alot to do with it. I hate to sound anything of vulgar, but alot of men like it in different places. My sweetie and I have had sex in the car, in his truck, in church parking lots, in a park, you name it. He needs to feel turned on. Also, if you are constantly showing off your skin and he already expects this then that will turn him off. You need to suprise him with a little cleavage or peek once in awhile. This will get his motor going.
2007-03-13 20:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by modelsmile34 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
possibly that could be the problem but i doubt it to guys that usually doesnt matter much there seems to be a hidden reason and u need to sit down and have a talk with him and find out from him what his problem is
2007-03-13 20:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he's not seeing someone else?
When you're on holiday you're alone with him, there's only you so you get all the attention.
Sounds a bit suspect to me.
2007-03-13 23:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some cash together and treat yourselves to a night in an Hotel, hope it works.
2007-03-19 06:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you say that his sex drive is higher when on holiday, that leads me to think that maybe he is just tiered most of the time. is his job demanding?
2007-03-16 06:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by fat momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its his parents house he probably feels uncomfortable...you say on holiday he is a lot more relaxed and you do it more often....if you are serious about him once you get your own place if you intend to do that...im sure he wont be able to keep his hands off you.....
2007-03-13 20:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by amri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋