my girlfriend gets abuse off her parents mum and stepdad they shout and scream at her alot and they make her do everything they call her for everything her brother hits her just teh other day he jammed her arm with 2 forks she gets bullied at college and hit sometimes everything gives her abuse her ex boyfriend who raped her never leaves her alone and trys to get back with her all the time i am 400 miles away we have a long distance relationship going what can i do!!!!
2007-03-13 12:51:59 · 8 answers · asked by skizmo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dude, that girl has some serious issues right now.. i doubt she needs you to act like her boyfriend, but to be her best friend too..
u sure everything she says is genuine, also take that into mind..
2007-03-13 12:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by 18/M/Scotland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and get her out of the place where she lives etc and try and find an affordable place for her to live in , thank god you care , get her with you asap , this could be a life or death situation . She could even be treated so bad to take her own life, she as been raped , and stalked by her ex , her family treat her not like a human being an animal gets treated better, not that an animal should be treated like that. See if there is a col ledge that she can go to near where you live, they may leave her lodge there for a small fee each term. please talk to her NOW and persuade her to stay with you that's if its appropriate just until she gets on her feet, if it is not appropriate you must know a friend who could help her out, ask around if the bedsits are affordable for you both to contribute together if that would be a solution. Don't leave her there she must feel worthless please show her you care so much that you need her with you and you want to take care of her and want her to be safe . Please help her if you cant you must find a way go to citizens advise asap and tell her that you will find a way to get her out of the nightmare she is living if you love her you WILL find a way. There must be some kind of safe house she can go to , the Citizens advise peep will know the best way to get her out of there they will help it is their job they will not mind. When she is safe you could help her report all the dreadful things that has happened to her to the police , these people should not be allowed to get away with what they have done to her, your her lifeline, save her!!!!
2007-03-13 13:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by bonniebella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her to get out of the situation because otherwise it's only going to get worse. She's not going to be able to start getting over her rape ordeal with all this going on as well. She needs to tell the police about her ex, he needs locking up, people like that shouldn't be allowed to roam the streets. I don't know how old she is but there is always social services who can get involved but for now I'd just get her to get as far away as possible from everything then start to deal with it. You can only be with her if you can cope with all this though because breaking up with her will just upset her more. You're gonna have to be very supportive towards her, do you think you can take on that responsibility? If not end it before it gets too involved. Definately get the ex done though, he deserves to be in prison where he'll get a daily battering, it's the sort of people other criminals absolutely hate, he'll have his taste of hell as well.
2007-03-13 15:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get away from that life and maybe transfer from that college. 87% of college students under family and relationship pressure either don't finish school or don't use their degree. What you described sounds terrible and depressing. If you want to be a good friend then you should talk to her and help her.
I hope this helps!!!! =)
2007-03-13 12:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by ..... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like one of life's born victims..
Nothing much you can do at that distance.
She has got want and get help herself..
All you can do is point her in the right direction.
not sure where you are or her age,
but their must be a help line or group near her that can give her support.
2007-03-13 13:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by Harly Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should go to the police about this, i got abused by my ex boyfriend and the longer i left getting help the worse it got, i ended up in intensive care for1 month, plz just tell her that she needs to get out now before it to late..
2007-03-13 12:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is in college she is old enough to get outta that situation! Tell her to transfer colleges to somewhere FAR away from her family and do it asap!
2007-03-13 13:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and get her. It depends how old you are I suppose, but if I were you, I'd get her out of there.
2007-03-13 12:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by dorothy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋