I am 64 years old and my wife is 63 years old. We met each other in college and we decided to date each other. She loves me so much. I'm not in love with her. We have been together for at least 43+ years. I have children with her and I started having sex with her since I was 28 years old. If I left her, I wouldn't have anymore sex and she'd be heartbroken and I wouldn't worry about child support since our children are 18+ and independant. I can imagine myself leaving her and not being sad. I'm only using her for sex. The only difference between a good marriage and my marriage is that I don't love her and she loves me very much and in normal marriage, both peeople love each other very much. I am really loyal and faithful to her. I never been with any other woman except her. I never cheated on her. I've been a good husband to her. Isn't that is what is important? her happiness? I like her as a friend. I treat her very well and treat her with love though. I'm not in love. Is that wrong?
2007-03-13 12:43:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After living a lie all these years why change now?
Paul
2007-03-13 13:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by paul R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its very admirable and definitely not wrong. If you feel life still has alot more to offer you then you just have to figure out if it would be attainable with or without her. Maybe explaining things to her will allow you to continue your lengthy marriage to her, something the world doesnt see too much of anymore. You have alot of history with this woman and it would be a shame if you just up and left. It sounds like this lady is very happy being with you no matter what. She obviously still believes in you and probably would be really lost without you. I think shed be willing to lose some happiness in return for keeping you around. You could never replace her companionship either. Sit down with her and explain your feelings. This lady probably knows you better than you know yourself and I seriousily doubt if youd be able to surprise her anymore. Good luck
2007-03-13 20:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I hear your Mommy calling you.....thanks for the points though
2007-03-13 20:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by oldman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very sad. If this is a true situation, how could you say you don't love someone after being with them for so many years. you obviously do or you wouldn't care about her feeling and you would just leave.
Maybe you should ask your doctor about meds for dementia?
2007-03-13 19:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by sandibum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I seriously didn't know that 64 years old are still having sex. No seriously, I'm not joking.
2007-03-13 19:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you got a good story going but the numbers don't add up.I say BS
2007-03-13 20:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I get older, losing my hair
Twenty years from now
2007-03-13 19:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you could be looking for do you? If you leave her you'll probably be lost. Get some counseling.
2007-03-13 20:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seriously think we’re going to fall for this…. PATHETIC.. HAHAHAHAHA
2007-03-13 19:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by L!LO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋