Is it normal or ok?

Question

Recently I've been having these feelings and emotions of getting and pregnant and having a baby because I love children so much. Why is this and I'm not old enough to have a baby? I'm only 18.

HELP!!!

Answer 1

Even though I know many women who had kids that early are great moms, not one of them say that they regret it, but they do wish they had waited, and taken more time to just enjoy being and independant adult. Things will work out they way they work out, but since we live in an age where you have choices, I suggest choosing to live your life now, and be a great mom later!

Answer 2

My guess is that your heart is ready for a baby but your head says you're too young and want to get out there, maybe study maybe get a job and see some life.

So the solution is easy, borrow someone else's kids! Have you got any nieces nephews you can look after, baby sitting for friends.neighbours on a regular basis?

You don't say what you've been doing with yourself for the past two years but have you considered doing a child care or nursery nursing course at college and get a job caring for children.

You sound like a lovely caring person but I think that if you dont see a bit of life first you will regret it. Your own child is an 18 year commitment (your whole life again).

Also stand in front of the mirror and ask yourself what you have to offer a child. Love, yes I can tell that by your question. Stability? Two loving parents ? A loving family unit? A home? A nursery (own room) for the child? Anything else that you would want if you were that child.

Answer 3

I went through the same thing at 18, 21 and 23.

I am now 26 and have a nice house and a fiance that i have been with for 11 years - we have just started trying for our first baby and i am so glad i did not give into those past hormone surges!

We have done some travelling and gained enough life experience to pass on to our son/daughter, we are settled at work and in our community and feel mentally stable enough to start a family (i don't think you really become relaxed in your head until the age of about 24)

Answer 4

I'm very glad I found your question. It's loneliness. At one time I didn't want to have children then I had a boyfriend, we moved in together we had our arguements but mostly because I felt lonely. I decided to have a child so I could have someone to love and who loved me, I did. I don't regret having decided to have a child. But it hasn't been easy I've stayed with the childs father because of the child not him and there comes the hard sad part. Before you decide make sure that it's the best thing for you and the baby. I imagine being a single mom must not be easy. I was 20, 21 when the baby was born.

Answer 5

You need a pet. Then you can rethink the whole baby thing. First have a job that takes up all your time, enjoy a social life and feel guilty because you aren't spending enough time with your dog. Guess what - a dog WILL give you unconditional love (unlike a baby who will also cry for hours sometimes). You will feel so guilty that you can't spend time with the dog and have a life. Then, after you've had that 'awakening' about responsibility for another being, you can think about meeting someone and starting to look for a husband to have that baby with.

Answer 6

Its totally OK, and normal.

If you know someone who has just had a baby, it can bring these feelings forward into the front of our minds, Also watching TV programs and taking an interest in young children so studying childcare could bring on that broody feeling too.
its called being broody, the woman's biological clock ticks louder at times when we've had contact with a newborn.

These feelings are normal, totally show you are growing up but it doesn't mean you have to give into these feelings, don't go getting pregnant at your young age, you got lots of time ahead.
If i had given in to this broody feeling everytime I got it I'd probably have 20 children by now!

Answer 7

its called being broody, its completely natural and will occur throughout you life- you dont have to act on it.

The reason you are so concious of it is as you are still growing (you will still grow until your mid 20's) and new and unique hormotions will be constantly rushing through you, your emotions are related strongly to them.

If you really dont believe me, then clock it everytime you feel broody, in a diary/wall chart diary like you would with your period/mestrual cycle, you'll probably find the broody ness occurs at the same time of the month each month. Although it is also normal to feel broody for an entire month (though exhausting!)

Biologically we get broody so that nature make us have kids, its makeing us think kids are al cute and georgous (which they are) in order that we then have them and continue with creating the human race. But it can give us a blind spot as to the difficult sides of becomming pregnent and having a baby, things such as money, sleepless nights and being constantly poor! Even if you know teenage mothers and see much of their difficulties and struggles (though this isnt exclusive to teenage mothers!), it never really hits home, the broodiness still reigns through.

The feeling is normal, its natural and doesnt mean you gotta have kids now. Its just your body doing its thing, leave it to it, the feeling will pass, and return , and pass... probably till the end of your days, and the same weather or not you have children!

Answer 8

I think sometimes it is a natural urge to feel that we want children, I am battling with it at the momment! (I have one already but am feeling broody again!) I suppose the time for you to have a child would be when you feel ready, and settled. Children are great but you loose alot of freedom at the same time. You say you are only 18 which is young, but it is how you feel inside which counts, and if you feel that you are ready to take on such a large responsibility. I know how powerfull these kind of feelings can be, but if you feel your not old enough maybe you arn't. I had my first child at 19 and felt that I was old enough, so its all about how YOU feel and if you think you can cope. Good luck and I hope everything goes well for you!

Answer 9

Don't worry about it, we all feel like this sometimes, 18 is young to have a baby! It's good that you love children me my-self adore them! But would you really want to become a young mother at the age of 18.

But if you feel you are ready why not?

Answer 10

I went through that too. For me it was a phase. The thing to do is to accept the feelings as being natural. It's your natural, innate need to want to mother. However, remain rational and practical while embracing those feelings. Accept the feelings, yes---don't try to deny what you feel..But don't let it rule your decision making. You ARE too young to have a baby. Even if you are old enough to by other people's standards--Just the sheer reason that you yourself have reluctance about having a baby tells me that you are not ready for one. Of course, you know this, and you are going to make the right choice.

Answer 11

18 is old enough to have a baby. I think women go through this. As a man, I have never even thought about having children.