Why I'm I being picked on/bullied? What could possibly be the reasoning? Any any any advice please!!!?

Question

I've really been in distress lately. I am a senior in high school. I am of small-medium build (thin, 5'8'') good looking, nothing about me that anyone would find to be "abnormal", as for most bullying cases. However, throughout my high school years, various people seem to find enjoyment "picking on" me and treating me like utter garbage. Lately there is this semi-big softmore that finds enjoyment with patting me on the back really hard or acting as if he is going to punch me, every chance he gets. It is very pathetic. My self esteem has gone down the tubes, even when I really try not to let it get to me. This is all I can think about and it is driving me nuts! I know I am better than this kid will ever be in his life, but I just do not see the reasoning. I stay out of people's way, mind my own business. No one seems to get this kind of treatment at my school. It's a very small and tight knit school. I just cannot get in this kid's mindset and understand why anyone would do this.

Answer 1

Unfortunately some people never change. I would ignore him as much as possible and hang out with your friends more.
I am 29, I went to high school in a small community and had sort of the same thing happen. I had this guy that lied and said that I had a crush on him and would do anything with any guy if he would give me a ride home before I had a car. Which was not true, he was two years my senior, but was a total idiotic creep. I ran into him last summer when I went back to see some family and friends and guess what he was still a creep! Seriously some people just never get over themselves. I would say ride it out, you don't have that much longer and you will find next year that high school is overrated. Enjoy your adult life.

Answer 2

K- a few things here budy. #1 If this kid can clean your clock be careful. Second in most cases these guys are fedding their social status based on degrading others.

I know goiing to an adult is not cool in your eyes but if your school has cctv cameras and you see it commin lean in, in front of a camera take a shot for the team and they will have it on video and this dink will be dealing with serious crap from Principal, parents and hey if serious enough the police. Bulling will be curbed in that place.


I have a few of these guys in high school. this i how I handled it .

I was fairly quick and about same size size (5'10" thin like you ) at the time in grade 11. I had one fellow who really wanted a piece of me and I refused to ackowledge him which irritated him.

I watched this guy like a hawk and oportunity finaly knocked. One time he approached from the opsoite direction in the hall and did exactly what you are talking about. When his arm came up I used his force grabbed his arm swung him around and drove his face into a locker, he was down for a bit.

The kicker was he was punished for starting a fight ( throwing a punch as witnessed) but I just defended.

If you can take their agressive move take definsive action and use your environment to your advantage your in the clear.

I have done this since with Cars, brick walls ( watch it I hurt a guy good with that one ) and even a flag pole. Again I never threw a puch but man did they hurt.

Once you do this be prepared for a few things

1 retaliation : This guy above did try and retaliate the same deal but this time in the cafeteria and needless to say no lockers buy he did fly across a table taking out everyones luch ( man were they pissed ). I never did have any problems after that.

2. no one will screw with you.

The other option is to confront the prick and make him look like an *** in front of his peers for being so imature, if you have one other say "Yea your an *** man " mission accomplished this will bruise his ego and if it continues he'll take a serious look in the mirror.

I agree with you, hang in High School Sucks from a social perspective ( hell for some ) Give it 3-5 years and he'll be asking you if you want to super size your oder while you rockin in life.

good luck and don't get yourself hurt !!

Answer 3

This kid may have his own self-esteem issues that he needs to deal with. Instead, he is taking his issues out on you. He sees you as a threat because you carry yourself in a way that he sees as something he would like. DO not change because of him. Usually when someone bullies, he has some insecurites within himself that he takes out on others. He may have learned this through some family member, etc. and this is the only way he knows how to react to those insecurities. Have you tried to befriend him? Have you asked him what his problem is? Even if he is semi-big, sometimes when you confront someone, they will often stop, especially if they are alone.

Answer 4

First i want to tell you you sound real cute
any ways dont tell someone first off that will make everything worse. My brother is a bully not bc he wants to be or choose but he has anger issues seriously. It was diagnosed. Did you every think of that. The other fact is he just might not be mature is he a jock most jocks are like that to seem tuff ( did i spell that right oh well ) You might have just been someone random he chose to pick on. Is he taller than you that usually makes the bully think they can over power you. I know you dont want to hear it but sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself i suggest ganging up on him if at all possible
Signed
Courtney

Answer 5

From Kindergarten right through High School, I was small for my age. AND I was smart for my age, so I ended up in a higher grade - made me seem even smaller for my grade. Plus, I started wearing glasses at age 7 and they weighed a ton (I'm VERY nearsighted), so I could have been a target for bullies. I guess I was just lucky one year though. In 5th grade, (mind you, I was small for a 5th grader) there was a boy who had failed two grades and was the school bully. I was not brave, but I was stubborn as could be. When he picked on me, I challenged him to a fight after school. He was so surprised, that we stood there pushing against each other without throwing a punch for what seemed like an eternity. The funny thing is, all I remember (at that point) is being angry, not afraid. There was plenty of afraid leading up to it. I think he saw that I was actually ready to fight him - and it stopped him cold.

Bullies don't really want to fight. And most cannot anyhow. When you become stronger than them mentally and emotionally, they have nowhere to go but backwards. Their goal is to get you upset, scared, and reacting to them. If they can't get a reaction from you, they lose.

To get your self esteem up, think about what you're good at. Whether it's academics, music, computer stuff, baseball statistics, treating all people with respect, or whatever, THAT is what you are made of, and what gives you value - and we all have value. God loves you enough to send His Son to die on the cross so you could be reconciled to Him. I think that makes you a pretty valuable person.

Lastly, and this may seem silly right now, but it's important. Your personal self esteem goes up whenever you see value in others. Bullies try to lift themselves up by pushing others down. Don't be like them, even in your mind. Do not allow yourself to think lowly of people. See the value in others and act like it. Your future life successes will increase as your ability to deal with diferent kinds of people increases.

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Answer 7

don't worry hun, same thing happened to me 5 yrs ago when i finished high school... some people are just mean, or maybe someone started a stupid rumor about you... just don't pay attention and have fun... this are your last months in high school!!! if you don't let it bother you they'll eventually get tired of it and find someone else to pick on, there's nothing wrong with you, think that maybe his dad is a child rapist or an alcoholic or an asshole and that's why he behaves like that... lack of love... but that's not your problem... have fun while you can, I MISS HIGH SCHOOL!!!

Answer 8

Bullies know instinctively who can be picked on and who cannot. I don't know how because I'm no bully but I would guess they can read body language.
What you need to do is change your body language to subtly say, don't mess with me! The problem is that if you issue a challenge you need to enforce it too.
So I would recommend you to excercise your body by taking up weightg lifting, or learn aikido so you can block anyone's arm before they can land on you.

Answer 9

if he is a jock like kid just do 1 small thing to him and he'll think its the end of the world. i know a kid like that and when we played b ball in gym he passed me the ball and i ducked. he looked like he was constipated and sooooooo mad. if was hilarious. another time at lunch he went to get somethin and he thought we did somthin to his food. really we were laughin at the crums across his face but he was almost about to cry back in class. i started to tell my friend and he was like "don't say my name!" "shut up!" lol.
when it comes to a little insult, they can't handle it becuase they think they're so tough and don't have any experiance in the real world. or just laugh when somthin funny happens to him.

Answer 10

well it sounds like hes not really pickin on you hes probably jus playin around to see your reaction dont react or tell him to leave you alone in a serious voice