Usual, boring scenario. Partner & I lived together, he left me three months ago saying we had different expectations.
But, please guys - this is what I don't understand. He has NEVER stopped contact with me, the longest period of time has been 4 days when I was out of cell range.
He dropped something off at my house the other day, stayed ten minutes and ten minutes later sent a very rude suggestive text. I rang him, asking what the hell he thought he was doing and then he had the audacity to say that I was over reacting, that he didn't want to get back together (I have NEVER once suggested that).
What's going on? He says 'I don't want to get back together' but hasn't left me along, suggests dirty things, says he still cares, tells me he wanted to marry me when we were together. Is it me? Am I going crazy?
I have asked several times for him to leave me alone, but he seems incapable. I think he still has feelings, yes, but what do his actions suggest to you? PLEASE!
2007-03-13 12:19:03 · 9 answers · asked by iliketorideigohago 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks all of you. It's not normal behaviour, is it? Especially since he was the one to end it. Other men I've had things end with have never acted this way - so confusing!
2007-03-13 12:43:18 · update #1
The leaving, the texts, the visits all suggest that he is a bit of a control freak. He is trying to stay in control of you and what you do. He is really unsure of himself and probably has self-esteem issues. I'm also guessing that you are the "nice" girl and just hate to hurt anyone's feelings. As long as you respond to him in any way he will remain in control. No one can make us crazy, we invite them to make us crazy.
2007-03-13 12:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Brent S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't answer his calls, don't answer the door when he is there, don't acknowledge his text messages. What he wants is you to be different sexually if the things he suggests are dirty and rude suggestive as you have stated plus he has different expectations. Take 1 last call from him and tell him not to contact you any more you are moving on and don't need the hassles. He may be incapable of leaving you alone but you can always stop it from your end by not answering.
2007-03-13 19:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not going crazy. he is playing mind games on you. it seems like some form of control/abuse thingey. i would suggest for you to move without telling him. you asking him to leave you alone is giving him way too much power. because you are asking him to do something that either he will or will not do. understand? you need to sever whatever connections are left. change the locks. if he comes over don't let him in. change your cell number, email address or move altogether without telling him. you may also want to seek out your local domestic abuse help for any tips that they may have for you. and the police to see if there are any charges that you can press against him.
2007-03-13 19:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your cell phone carrier and change your number and make sure you do NOT give it to him again. He just wants to toy with you. Like a cat plays with a mouse before he devours it. But the problem is, YOU are responding to it. Letting him get you all in a tizzy. That's why he does it. Ignore his azz long enough, and see if he continues. It's no fun if no one pays attention to you.
2007-03-13 19:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guys nuts get a restraining order before he comes in and does something real creepy
2007-03-13 19:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
his actions suggest that he is a control freak. time to change the locks, change the phone number and get a restraining order in a hurry. if that doesn't work have one of your male friends kick his ***.
2007-03-13 19:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His actions say loud and clear that he wants you as a human sex toy not a wife.A sex toy and nothing more.Tell him once more, then get a restraining order, change your phone number and locks.
2007-03-13 19:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not answer any of his text or cell phone calls to you and i would not open the door and see if that works i would leave him alone
2007-03-13 19:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by firecrackertx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is either on medication or drugs that he should not be on or needs to be on them....he is crazy, not you!
Dont talk to him and get a restraining order if needed
2007-03-13 19:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by sandibum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋