2007-03-13 12:15:49 · 17 answers · asked by Sexy lady 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I had a baby last year at the age of 23. I felt old enough but being a uni student, had no other friends with children! I wouldn't change my life as my baby has brought so much joy that I would never have imagined, but emotionally it's a hard adjustment to become a mother, 24/7.
You have to not mind the idea of staying in a lot more, especially in evenings.
It helps to be in a supportive relationship, with the baby's father if possible. Otherwise supporting friends or family are essential. You may also argue for no reason sometimes if you find things hard or feel stressed.
You have to be willing to have less time to yourself - a lot less.
You don't HAVE to have enough money - just know how to save, budget, and go without luxuries so that the things that baby needs always come first. Not having enough money when a baby is born, while I wouldn't recommend it, is also a great motivator to try and earn more!
On the money side - if you can collect together enough 2nd hand baby items, and have trusted friends who will help out, this greatly helps cut down on babysitting costs and is better than buying all new items.
From experience, I would say that if your main priorities are going out, shopping for clothes, etc then unless you are willing to change these completely, you are not quite ready. I would recommend age 24/25 - 33.
2007-03-13 19:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by madam_butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't matter, it depends on the person,
i fell pregnant last yr unexpected i was 22 im now 23, and i didn't feel ready to have a baby but i had a lovely baby girl and to be honest it is the best thing ever to happen to me, ppl say they want to do everything first with career travel etc before they have a baby, but i personally think that a good age to start a family is 20 - 27, at that time i think you adapt fairly better than someone who is set in there ways with life,
2007-03-15 05:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by mizzmamma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 37 and just about to have a first baby. This is the right time in my life for me to have a child as I have done the things that were important to me in my twenties; focussed on a career and travelled to lots of places, had a few different boyfriends! Now in my 30s we have our own house, no debts and will have no regrets. I didn't feel ready or mature enough in my 20s or early 30s but now feel ready to be a mother financially and emotionally. I think you just have to be having a baby for the right reasons and be in a stable position to provide and care for it.
2007-03-14 07:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing because no matter what age you have one it will be the biggest up heaval you have ever experianced.
Babies change everything and no amount of life experiance prepares you for that.
I was 21 when I had my son. I thought I was to young but I've seen older mothers fall to pieces after having a baby and younger mothers cope even better than me.
I think the older you are, the more set in your ways you are and the harder it is to adapt.
2007-03-14 03:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person. Some women have babies young and cope exceptionally well others have babies later in life and do not cope at all. Ive got a 7 week old son and I am 20, and in my eyes I am handeling it very well. My partner is 22 and he is finding it very hard to cope. I know my dad was 34 when I was born (1st Child) and he was very helpful. I think males cope better when they are older, as they are probably ready to have kids then, when they are younger it seems like they feel their "youth" has been taken away from them. But as I said to begin with, it all depends on the person.
2007-03-13 14:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by three_red_shoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...I'd say most women can handle it best by age 30. Men, a little older. Some people are ready earlier than others. I'd say if you were planning when to get pregnant (as opposed to an accidental pregnancy), absolutely no younger than 26, and no older than 45. And be married 2-3 years before getting pregnant (unless you over 35).
Younger parents seem to feel more trapped and like they don't have enough "me" time than older parents. I'm sure its cuz older parents have had more years to do all that stuff before the kids were born.
2007-03-13 12:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Whenever you are financially and emotionally stable, and in a stable relationship.
I got married at 19, and pregnant with our first child at 21. Most people would say that is too young, but we own our own home and my husband has a stable job that pays decent. He's in the military, and honestly, most people around here who are the same age have 2-3 kids already.
2007-03-13 12:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you absolutely know that you can take care of yourself no matter what - then ask about whether you are willing give up your life to a child - for at least the next twenty years. If the answer is a categoric yes - then that's the age.
2007-03-13 12:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are young enough to have a healthy pregnancy & baby, & energy enough to raise children, but old enough to have done all the things you want to do as a single person/married couple. Hard to pinpoint that for individuals, but probably somewhere between 25-35.
2007-03-13 12:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by harlowtoo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think probably around mid-twenties for a woman & slightly older for a man.
By that time they have established their careers, are more settled & mature enough to bring a child into the world.
Any younger & I think it is just like babies having babies.
2007-03-13 22:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋