Why do Japanese women hate children form a first marriage?

Question

Why do Japanese women hate children form a first marriage?
When they date with a man, who has children from a first wife, They always hate the children, why?

Answer 1

I would advise against using words like "Always" because not ALL Japanese women in that situation do. It really depends on the person. The only reason why it seems that it always happens is that the people it happens to are usually more vocal than the ones it doesn't happen to.

Here is the stereotype. Japanese women are very territorial and possessive, ESPECIALLY when it comes to men. One of the Major Major goals in life for Japanese women is to get married. Once they get a boyfriend, the set their claws in him and usually don't ever let go. Unfortunately, second marriage children are seen as memorials to their mans past. Therefore you have the negative feeling towards the kids. That is the stereotype. But I have known women in this situation and they are able to love the man's kids as their own. It did take longer, because there was no initial bond that birth mothers have with their kids, but it did happen.

Psychologically speaking, usually women who have low self-esteem are the ones that hate their husbands kids. The more confident, self-assured women are able to develop a genuine motherly love for their husbands kids.

Hope that helps a little.

Answer 2

I think that depends on the individual rather than the culture--many people of both genders from every country hate the children from their significant other's first marriage. As for why... their partner's kids from the previous marriage might take attention and eventually inheritance away from themselves and from any children they might produce together. Also, many children resent whoever their parent is dating because they see that person as trying to replace their other parent, and I'm sure it's hard to maintain a good relationship with a child that hates you.

Answer 3

I don't think all japanese women hate children from the first marriage. I think its based on the individual not japanese women in general. But iwould say that they hate the children because they didn't have the kid so they don't think they have to take care of them.

Answer 4

Because child from second marrige will be prettier.


Joke!


I m sure not everyone hate children from a first marrige.

Answer 5

Probably because it's not their own child maybe they are jealous of that child? I really don't know =)

Answer 6

not all...well for psychological reasons, they're jealous with the child, and it's not their own...japanese people are sensitive, like we would do harakiri if we won't be able to shape a pot perfectly...hihi..