sex problem?

Question

i am 23 and every time i have sex with my girlfriend i come to early. what can i do about this

Answer 1

This really depends on what you call too EARLY. If you will email me and elaborate on the time frame, I can give you some suggestions.

Paramedic in SC

Answer 2

Some of the suggestions above are good, but I have found the best way is to simply stop, and change positions. Staying in one position will lead to a faster climax as you are fully focused on that activity. But by stopping, that will automatically slow things down. Then changing positions will help start the process again. You may even need to stop fully for a bit and titillate her by other means - such as using your fingers or tongue or even a dildo. Surely she will appreciate the extra attention and be happy that the process is prolonged. Also, there's nothing wrong with telling her you need to "slow down" a bit so that you don't climax too soon. Again, she will certainly appreciate changing the pace to prolong the experience.

As others said, sometimes you do need to think of other things. The famous "unsexy thoughts" does help, but try to shift your focus away from the wonderful activity going on. It is tough to do, but it does help in prolonging the experience.

Other ways is to "double wrap" - that is, using two condoms to decrease your stimulation.

Some people suggested you reach orgasm on your own before seeing her. There is merit there. Usually the first orgasm is quickly achieved, whereas it takes longer for the second. But you can use this to your advantage too. You are only 23, so even if you climax quickly the first time, at your young age, you should be easily able to get things going again for round 2.

Some also suggested you experiment on yourself - that is, find ways to prolong your own orgasm. There's tons of truth there. If you can prolong an orgasm when "entertaining yourself", then this could help you when you are with your g/friend.

And if all else fails, just give it time. As you age, you will gain more experience and be able to slow things down. But if this continues to be a problem, where you always reach orgasm very quickly (within a few minutes), you might want to check with your doctor to ensure all is O.K. there.

Good luck and have even more fun! ;-)

Answer 3

Well, you have to practice.

You need to do some deprogramming therapy. The problem is that you have been programmed to climax too fast by whomever gave you your sexual education and experience. Sex is largely a matter of imprints created by your parents when you're very young.

So you need to retrain yourself. I'd recommend trying this:

Get a dirty movie you really enjoy and put it on. Now, start jerkun - and jerkun - but when you get close then stop. Just stop and breathe - breathe - now start jerkun again. Do this for as long as you can stand it - but stop before you get past the point of no return.

If you do this once or twice a week you will begin noticing you have more control. You're still young, mind you, so don't worry too much - but you really just need to deprogram yourself.

You're fine - just a little work and your girlfriend will be stunned by your new performance level.

FP

Answer 4

All of us experience premature ejaculation at one time or another.

In your case, it may be the novelty of the situation-- I had a lot of "first times" that ended not-so-great just because of the newness of the woman and the excitement.

I think it will just take practice to learn each other's rhythms.

For starters, you can use a start and stop technique, such as switching positions for a "breather." Also, I would consider throwing in a couple uncomfortable positiions (for you, not for her) that can delay ejaculation. I know for a fact that I cannot *** to save my life in a spooning position or something like that.

You can also try squeezing the tip of the penis if you start to get too close.

Or think about car accidents or zombies or your grandmother.

BUT my best advice is concentrate on her feelings and sensations. To this day (I am 29 and married) I take care of my wife first, then me. A long massage, fingering, oral sex, sex toys, for a good long time and take care of her needs first. I make her *** two or more times with those methods and take up a good 30-40 minutes.

By the time that is done, she wants to blow me SO bad and have me in her, and it doesnt matter at all if I blow the wad early!

Answer 5

I had the same problem. It really sucked, honestly my chick left me cause I couldn't satisfy her. But I got it figured out. I used to last two minutes, and bust. Now I can go as long as I want pretty much, even when I'm really horny. I learned the method on www.mistermanpower.com. She needs to come back so I can use it on her.

Answer 6

think unsexy thoughts just like homer sayzzz good luck man all tha power to ya

Answer 7

this is called pre-mature ejackulation. go slower and stop once in a while

Answer 8

Jerk off right before you get together with her.

Answer 9

ask her if she enjoys a "quickie"