my husband doesn't understand why i feel so empty but it is because he will not open up to me or show me the affection as he once did please help me write me a letter and explain how i feel.I'am not good at putting my feelings into words.I want it to be greta!!
2007-03-13 11:48:09 · 6 answers · asked by jessica b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try showing him some affection. Show him more respect, affection, kindness, and support. He'll catch on. He might be closed up because he might be getting the message that you don't want affection either, so he doesn't show you any. Try showing him some, and over time, see what happens!
2007-03-13 11:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter and let your heart tell you what words to write. Have you tried talking to him and telling him how you feel and why? Put your feelings into words on paper and follow your heart. The words will come trust me. Just be you! Also see if he is open to going to marriage counseling with you for help with this marriage. A counselor may be able to help you open up and communicate to him what you are feeling and why. Start the letter out by telling him how much you love and cherish him and that you are so glad to be his wife. Be positive and loving and ask him why wont you open up and talk to me about things as this kinda bothers me that you do not do this. I love you so much and i want you to feel that you can talk to me and come to me with anything. Show him alot of affectiong and be very loving to him and who knows he may return the favor and react in a loving way back to you. You can also write in the letter that you miss how he used to show you love and affection and what can you do to help him be like that again. Hope this helps some and gives you some ideas. Good luck to you and writing this letter. Try not to be harsh or critical in your letter be loving and kind and suggest ideas to try and help him understand how you are feeling.
2007-03-13 19:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of writing a letter telling him how empty you feel, etc... try writing a letter spelling out all the things you still love about him. I imagine that will get you more affection than a list of what he's NOT doing for you.
2007-03-13 21:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have treid telling my husbad how i feel and it has not gotten better or worse I hope for you that it will get better I would take him to a nice dinner and talk about all of it, it is better to talk than to write a letter because in a since you are hiding from your ownself so if he does not like what you say you wont get hurt but part of life is getting hurt which sucks!
2007-03-13 19:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by firecrackertx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a letter will be a good idea but i will also suggest for you to get a life outside of your husband and your marriage. that may be just what he needs to understand that he is not doing what is needed to fulfill your needs. get some activies, hang out with your frineds. if you don't have any frineds then make some. if you don't have a job...get one. you can make frineds at your job. anything...don't just sit there and wait for him to make you feel happy again when you are capable of doing that yourself. get out, get some activies outside of your home and be happy. that may be just what he nees to understand just how you feel.
2007-03-13 19:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try writting him a letter.Thats how i am more open,& it works.COmmunication is the Key to a happy marriage.Try sitting down and tell him how you feel Be open about everything after all he is your husband
2007-03-13 18:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋