My parents think im doing drugs because im always in my room because i get these awful migranes and i just want to be left alone. i try to explain to my mom but she doesnt belive me because im on medication for it. I have had a nasty flu and my eyes are all sunkin in and im out of it most the time because i have no energy so this morning my mom told me i looked like i was on drugs...i ran out of the room crying how can my parents think im on drugs i have changed all my friends i get A's and B's and i do everything to mke them happy i just want to hear im proud not what have u been doing up there let me check ur breath....what do i do??? HELP ME PLEASE!!!
2007-03-13 11:38:35 · 16 answers · asked by colie_rocks_out 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Maybe you all need to have a real serious talk in which you listen...and let them say what they feel....and you respond to them and say how you are FEELING
I can totally understand how you feel when you feel accused of something that isn't even so....
So, I would try that...and I would also let them know that you would be willing to do what it takes to let them know that you are living a healthy lifestyle...
If you feel like it is beyond talking, then maybe you need to write them a letter and let them know how you feel...that way you can totally express how you feel....
But, if none of that works, then you may need to look at focusing on continuing living a healthy lifestyle, but don't live it to prove anything to them...live it to prove it for yourself...
They may never get it...they may never apologize...and you can't be looking for them to understand you forever....
I had the same thing happen to me when I was younger....and until this day, my parents still treat me like they should expect the worse...
I have found that living my life healthy for me and my family is what is most important....I can make all of the best choices, but it is like my parents don't respect that position of my life...they always want more and more...
But, I live my life NOW...to be the best I can be for me, my husband, and my kids....
I still haven't gotten an apology from my parents for how they hurt me when I was a kid...and still don't get one when they insult me now....
But, I love me because I do what is best for my life...I even pat myself of the back every now and then...God showed me that ....
2007-03-13 11:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should see a doctor about those migranes. Perhaps you overwork yourself? I do too, and I got headaches for a while, but now I'm used to it and I no longer get headaches.
Anyways, about your more pressing problem. I suggest you go to the doctor and get a drug test to prove to your parents that you don't do drugs. And, if they say something like, "Oh, you just didn't do drugs for a few days so it would appear that way on the drug test." Then, you should tell them that it is absolutely outlandish that they cannot trust either you or the facts.
2007-03-13 19:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Random G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a calm moment, when you can sit down with BOTH of your parents and talk, ask them a few questions and be willing to hear the answers.
(1) Have I ever done or said anything that leads you to believe that I have in the past or am now using any type of illegal drugs?
(2) Would you be willing to take me to see the doctor where I will willingly submit to a drug test to prove I am not using illegal drugs?
(3) What can I do to earn your trust in me and is there some reason that you don't think I am trustworthy?
2007-03-13 18:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by stonechic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes parents think the worst because that is what they are afraid of... the worst. If you are truly not exibiting any real sign of drug use, that will become apparent to your parents. The migraine will pass and so will the flu and you will look like "you" again. Until then, talk to them honestly and be totally real in the way you speak to them. As a parent, that's what I would want. Nothing shows repect like honesty.
2007-03-13 19:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by sumbodys_mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to ur doc by urself or w/ a friend...even a teacher if noone else...and either get a note from them explaining to ur parents exactly whats wrong or have the doc call them. U might also wind up finding out better treatment too. Also, try as much fresh air & water as u can take, it should really help.
2007-03-13 18:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by What Dreams May Come 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time don't freak out. It looks awful suspicious if you freak when asked a simple question. Just be blunt (no pun intended) Tell them straight out what you think. Parents aren't all that bad and sometimes we have no Idea what your thinking unless you clue us in.so if you want more attention let em know. If your tired of being accused, tell em. the biggest mistake teenagers make is keeping it all in. If your streight forward and honest theyll take you more seriously.
2007-03-13 19:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by JUDAS RAGE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be doing drugs. How do we know? We don't. People who do drugs do lie a lot and they do make excuses. But the best thing you have going for you is your grades. The better the student you are, the harder it is to be a hard-core druggie. Your parents will realize that and back off your case when they see that you have consistently good grades.
2007-03-16 15:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i have the same problem with my parents, i think drugs are nasty and i would never do them, but they have this horrible image of me that i do drugs and nasty stuff but i dont!!! you should tell them to give you a drug test if they dont beleive you??
2007-03-13 19:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont change anything abiout yourself
just sit your parents down and explain to them that it hurst that they dont trust you. what have you done to make them not believe you.
and about makeing your parents happy... if they have a problem with trusting you you need to have a seriouse conversation
2007-03-13 18:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by rollin with the homies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's an idea...get her to take you to the Dr's for a drug test.
2007-03-13 19:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋