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Question

I have a child from a previous relationship and am with my current partner for 3 years. We have just bought a house and everythings great. Someone recently asked if I'd have any more kids and someone mentioned that if I did "I'd be the Who@e with kids by tow different dads" I thought this was something of the past as most relationships now have previous kids, if you know what I mean. Just wondering your views.

that should be two!!

Answer 1

My view is that whoever told you that is a piece of worthless vermin.

Children are gold...love is all you need.

Please don't waste your time listening to these people, they are nothing and they mean nothing.

Bless you...bless your child...bless your man...and bless your lives!

Answer 2

Humm, I have this same situation. My eldest, the biological dad, legged it the minute the test went positive. I brought him up as a single parent no worries, I worked went back to college, graduated. After 5 years met my ex, had my daughter and that relationship bit the dust when he decided a bit of violence would help him rule the roost. Now Ive been with my partner coming up to 2 years and we are considering having a baby. this would mean 3 children by different Dads. I didnt choose this path, my ideal was the stereo typical Family, you know mum and dad with their kids. Ive had my down times with the fact if we do go ahead, all the children will have different surnames, and I admit it goes against the grain. I guess it was the way I was bought up, from the late 60's. But hey my kids know they have different surnames, they also love my partner dearly and he is more than a Dad to both of them. they have been bought up as individuals, they are both unique and I certainly do not regret for one minute any of it, as after all without all my history I wouldnt be here now the person I am. I believe my children will grow up with the same concept, the other children at school dont mention the fact Mummys surname is different. The only people who muddle it up are the staff!!!!
I have a friend (married) who has 7 kids by 4 fathers (one is adopted and retains contact with his biological father, shes not the biological mother) They have a fantastic relationship with each other and their peers. No one judges her openly, they just admire her for the care and love she offers her family
I think the "Who@re" refrence is well out of order, If you were unfortunate to have had a child with 2 fathers, who should have died for what ever reason, and you had a 3rd child by your new husband, I think the consensous would mostly likely be an apathetic "ahhhh, look those poor orphans now have a daddy and a new baby brother/sister."

People are all to quick to judge, society is changing. We cant all be lucky enough to have had the perfect romance, engagement, marraige then children.
Our kids will grow up to be more at peace with themselves and their roots more than most.

Answer 3

Don't worry about others opinions, I know its difficult sometimes but you have been with your current partner for 3 years so you definetly would not be a w###e. You seem to be settled and seem like you make a fantastic mum, and the child would be coming into a secure loving home. If people say things like that to your their probably just jealous of what you have. Many people I know have children from previous relationships, and they seem happy enough, it has become a normal part of society. I hope everything goes well for you and your family, good luck!

Answer 4

That's a pretty nasty thing for someone to say. Did it come from a hardcore church type? It is a past view but then many of those types live in the past. Don't let it bother you, relationships don't work out for many reasons. Would they have said the same thing if your husband or partner from the past had died? Probably not. The fact that you have a new male role model for your child and are providing them with a healthy environment to grow up in is the most important thing. Good for you.

Answer 5

OH come on..are you going to let someone else tell you what you should do with your life or what you are ? the only thing that counts is that you guys love each other and you deserve a second chance at being happy, nothing wrong with haveing a second child with someone else, but i do think that if you are going to have a second child, it will be with someone youre going to be with forever, you dont want the same thing that happened to your first kid to happen to your second or third for that matter..you want to give them stability..so if the relationship is not going anywhere or youre not looking for a long term relationship, then use a condom or some form of birth control..anywho good luck,,

Answer 6

YA know when people make comments like there the assholes, just becuase we bring kids into the world by 2 different fathers doesant make us bad mothers by any means... OF course some poeple are old fashion when it comes to bringing a child in the world but as long as you both great parents then people should'nt judge becuase they may very well find themselves in this postion... Now personally I wouldnt want children from another man but this is my on view and I dont judge becusae someone else is different form me... its just life and we live the best we can.... dont worry about what people say just go on with your life

Answer 7

Really what would it matter what others think? Are you happy with your partner and your child? If you want another child, then is your happiness going to decrease just because someone has no life of their own so has to make judgements about someone else? You know, if you have a good life yourself, you don't need to comment on anyone else so it is those people who gossip who should be pitied... Enjoy your life. Its too short to waste worrying about what others think. Do what you think is right for your family.

Answer 8

If this is something that you want to do (have a kid with the man your with) then do it. Your life is your own don't allow some narrow minded fool to run your life. Now a days its common for a relationship to fall apart and what are you going to do stay single forever?

Answer 9

If you want to have another kid with this guy and everything is going good with him then go a heade it's your decision and if people call u a whore with kids from 2 dads then they're bitches and have no right to call u that and its mean and they are just jealous because u got all the guys!LOL

Answer 10

How awful, I hope you gave them a smack in the mouth for their trouble. I think when you get to a certain age, you have to accept that when you meet a new partner he/she has got a past which may involve children. Go for it, I say, as long as you are in a loving stable relationship any new children will be ok.

Answer 11

Having children with 2 different men is not always a bad thing. It may just mean you were smart enough not to stay with someone you could not be happy with. Treat this statement with the same consideration you would give to any ignorant babbling: IGNORE IT.