by the way yes i am married etc
2007-03-13 11:31:27 · 20 answers · asked by tinkerbell 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nice answers! NOT! Geez, some people.... it's not uncommon. The suggestions telling you to try different things (positions, oral, etc) should do the trick. Tell your husband that's what you want, I'm sure he'll be up for the challenge!
2007-03-13 11:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there. i understand your frustration. it is perfectly normal to not have an orgasm. some women can easliy have one, others it is very hard. I have had one. At least I think it was one. I am married as well. But before my marriage I never had one.
I hate touching myself, think it's the sickest thing you can do. leave that you your spouse. But if you are fine with it try and find a good spot that feels great and work it and try to get to a point where you think you will have an orgasm. Though you may not know what it will feel like. Or if you dont want to do that have your spouse try.
It can take a min for a woman to get an orgasm, for others it can take hours or more.
You are not alone chicky!
:)
2007-03-13 15:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Momma Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too common.
Play with your clit until and be willing to spend hours trying to find the right balance. Men have lots of practise and for that reason they are better at having orgasms them women. Try to gently rub the area near your clit. Some women feel like they need to pee just before climaxing, so they hold back out of fear of wetting themselves and as a result never have an orgasm. If this happens simply go with the feeling. You probably won't pee, but if you think this might happen, you should be in the bath tub where you won't make a mess.
Good luck.
2007-03-13 18:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by quizzical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your hubby know? If he does, shame on him for not trying every minute of every day to accomplish this. Sounds like you just need help relaxing and maybe some extra stimulation. There are products available from F.U.N. Inc. go on-line at www.funpartiesinc.com. Unfortunately, it is harder for women to orgasm than men. First become familiar with the erogenous parts of your body the vulva, the clitoris, breasts, the back of the neck, ears, scalp, small of the back, fingers and toes. I bet your hubby would be happy to explore and find out what feels good to you. After all, part of the fun point of being married is you can fully explore the marital bed and your partner. You should not be embarrassed by your body or his. Unfortunately, that is not totally easy in the way society has formed our sexual views. You can buy a book, but most are too embarrassed by this to do that, or go on-line. try sexinfo101.com. Good luck cause ya don't know what your missing!
2007-03-13 11:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by REBELLYNN 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know from experience because I am not a girl but I have read a whole bunch of stuff that indicates it is not just you, so anyone who answered it is just you is ignorant. I don't know what kind of advice to give you but I will pass on what I have read and that is that you should try to pleasure yourself, this way there is no performance anxiety, tell your husband exactly what feels good, maybe even purchase a vibrator or go on line to an adult toy store and simply shop around. I wish you the very best luck.
2007-03-13 12:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by frogenstien 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know of a lot of women who haven't had an orgasm. In fact, the first one I had, I gave it to myself. After I perfected the art of doing that for myself, I taught my mate how to do the craft. Men don't know exactly what to do, and women have to be willing to let themselves be free enough to tell their mate what it is they need. Do you think there is something wrong with you? Do you know how to bring yourself to have an orgasm-I truly hope so.
2007-03-13 14:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear it a lot. Can you achieve one through masturbation? Do you know how? There are typically two types of orgasm for a female. Clitoral and vaginal(g-spot) the vaginal may not ever happen for many women but the clitoral is certainly attainable. Have your husband gently use his tongue to stimulate your clitoris. Don't let him give up early, this could take as long as 15-20 minutes. While he is making love to you, (you on your back, him on his kness infront of you your legs over his thighs so he can achieve penetration.) Stimulate your clitoris with your index and middle finger as he is pumping. This is my wifes favorite position as she says it gives her the most freedom of self stimulation.
2007-03-13 11:39:07 · answer #7 · answered by Gwynny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL! I had my first one a few months ago! It was with my husband of course, and I'm flattered that he can turn me on like that! Don't worry about it, just find a position that totally turns you on. I don't have an orgasm all the time, every blue moon, but I don't care, I still have that bond and connection with him that I don't care. Making him happy makes me happy. Don't sweat it, he'll find your hot spot. Good luck!
2007-03-13 11:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there are other women in the same situation. Try being on top. It's the easy position for many women.
2007-03-13 11:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is common, for some women it is very hard for them to relax during sex, many though become more comfortable with age and the best sex for them is in their 30's
2007-03-13 11:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋