my daughter was really doing crack/coke bad, she was neglecting her children (my grandchildren) by not supervising them while they were outside, not providing food, letting them shower themselves (they are 5 and 3), to top it all off is that my 14 year old daughter always stayed out there with them and she was raped by my other daughters boyfriend for 3 years and she now has a baby. erica (the girls mom) currently has a 1 br apartment, im not sure if she is still on drugs but i know she cant provide for the girls, she has a barroom salary and another baby to take care of, she doesnt even have a vehicle. please tell me wht i can do to get the kids!
2007-03-13 11:29:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
the girls are only staying w/ her every now and then, they stay w/ their other grandma, but she is taking care of 6 kids altogether, please tell me wht i can do
2007-03-13 11:31:07 · update #1
well , if this happened to my dad then i know what he'd do.
if one of my sisters were doing drugs, not taking care of her kids , etc. ..... then he would just go to her house and take the kids ... and if i were the 14 yr old ( im 13 ) then he wouldn't let me go around her boyfriends anymore and probably go handle them in a way they dont wanna be handled himself! dont let this go on longer.. wat if ur grandchidren start doing drugs too?
i knew a crack addict that had a little 7 yr old that smoked! they finally got busted by the cops ....
anyways, good luck! hope u get the kidz so they can have a better life...
2007-03-13 11:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 options.. continue reports to cps (and no, you don't have to have "proof" that is their job). As far as the rape goes, be prepared for them to question why you continued to allow her to be there. Once cps takes custody, they are the legal guardians...and it is completely optional if they believe it is best for the kids to be with family members. The main issue with family is that your daughter will be extremely likely to harrass you, and possibly try to run with the kids. Foster parents have better protection, including the fact that their location is kept private. In order to get the kids back, your daughter will be forced to PROVE she can now be a capable parent, or face possible termination of all rights.
Some states allow grandparents to file for custody, IF they can prove the parent to be unfit. It is a civil action, meaning up to the grandparent to hire an attorney. Under what you have said.. it is highly likely she would contest it, and attempt to show that your home may not be better. And if you suceeded, you still have the problem of her knowing where the children are, and disrupting their life.
I am sorry to say my opinion.. for the well being of the kids, long term, cps is probably the better answer (if there is any "good" answer). The number one reason for that is that they have the legal clout to place the children where mom CANNOT have unrestricted access, as well as providing medical care or counseling if need be.
2007-03-14 01:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by wendy c 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first talk to your daughter and see if you can help out by keeping the kids for awhile. if not then either call the police or cps to report what is going on. Why didn't you do something when she was neglecting them before or when the rape happened. Call the other gramma and see if you can keep them part time. although going back and forth between everyone is hard on them. You could go and try for grandparents visitation rights so that you see them on a regular basis.
2007-03-13 18:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need much valid documentation before CPS will even take a look. I suggest a family lawyer. But first... have you talked to her? She might be more than happy to have someone else take full responsibility of those children. But the minute you do get them, change locks nn the doors. There's way too much drama , and drama will try anything in a drugged/drunken state. Don't give up; you will find a way.
2007-03-13 18:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call Child Protective Services and report this to them. Let them know you are the grandmother and are willing to take the children in. Then you need to get some type of restraining order so your daughter doesn't come and take the children. Those kids will need some counseling too.
Good luck.
2007-03-13 18:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by toomeymimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with your local district attorney office.
They should be able to tell you what paperwork you need, to apply for custody of the kids..
CPS are scarey.. scarey group.. they go off half cockedand mess up a lot of good families. Like elephants in a china shop try to avoid them.. work the DA office, police..maybe even the preschool she has the kids in..
2007-03-13 18:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the CPS/Social Services agency where she lives and inform them of the situation. They'll arrange a surprise visit and you'll have a better idea what is happening. Good luck.
2007-03-13 18:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by chuck_junior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I hate CPS (they can be very distructive to GOOD families), call CPS. You have to look out for waht's best for the kids! They are #1.
2007-03-13 18:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
child neglect
2007-03-13 18:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋