If you could tell your mother or father anything about the way you were raised?

Question

If you could tell your mother or father anything about the way you were raised that they messed up at what would it be?

Answer 1

-That her over-authoritarian parenting was not effective, despite what she thinks. I basically had to reprogram myself to think like a normal person through hours and hours of therapy after I moved I moved out.
-THat, name-calling is not a means to keep your children in line.
-That my faults did not need to be broadcasted to the rest of the family and that was the reason why I sat in the corner all alone at family functions.
-That frequent put-downs and lack of praise and understanding does not raise a successful child with high-self esteem.
-That my feelings were valid and no one had the right to tell me they werent
-That taking care of your child's emotional health is just as important as taking care of their physical health
-That you do not beat your children
-That my lack of confidence in myself is due to her lack of confidence in me
-That her manipulation and guilt trips made me feel like I was a bad person and made me not want to socialize with other people for fear of being judged
-That I was somebody important in this world despite how she made me think
-THat I was not a bad kid and it took until I was 22 years old to realize that.

Answer 2

I would say my single parent messed up my entire life for being an abusive,self centered,alcoholic,gambler and outright manipulative person.Thank god some of my family members took care of me even if they didn't have to.they manage to bring my hopes up and guide me to being an independant adult and also teach me to love myself(been abuse for so long)I'm scared of ppl getting drunk and abusive and almost choke in tears when ppl around me fight or rise their voices at me.I also used to be a bad tempered person but i've change for the better so yeah my victory is you'll never get a chance to see this gal of yours turn out so much better and respectable than you could have been

Answer 3

Nothing except I would ask them not to allow the school to make me skip third grade. That made a big difference to me and I would never do that again. They are too old to blame for such a small thing. It's all old people can do to remember their own lives much less other's. Forgive them. You will feel lighter and your back won't hurt.

Answer 4

How can you tell somebody that it would have been better if they hadn't been so clueless about life?