If you found out that your dad was cheatting on your mom? sadly but soo
2007-03-13 11:22:10 · 25 answers · asked by enano 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Telll your mom without your dad finding out that you're involved. After that, it's up to your mom to decide what to do.
Whatever happens, don't despair. You're not alone and life does go on beyond terrible circumstances such as divorce.
Come what may, keep your head up and never succumb to drinking and equal depravity to help you forget your problems. Face them and conquer them!
I wish you all the best in your future.
2007-03-13 11:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by abby j 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what evidence you have...can you elaborate?
Honestly, I would let your mom find out for herself...That's just gonna cause family tension, and of course when people fight, they look for someone to blame for the fall out, and it might be you sadly enough, even though you didn't force your dad to cheat, it's just the fact that you told her. I would definitely talk to dad and see what the hell is going through his head, but no, I wouldn't say anything, but that's just my personal opinion. Emotions could get involved and you might want to tell her. Think about it before you do anything. Good luck to you! Sorry you're in such a bad position.
2007-03-13 18:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Confront your father. You are still their child and should remain in your place. But you should tell dad that you know. The reaction is unpredictable, but it's better to let him know than not say anything. His answer may shock you. Give him a chance to explain. While there is no good excuse for cheating, coming from our parents, sometimes things seem a little more understandable. But know that you are not the one to tell your mother. It would be up to him. More than likely he wouldn't want you to live with that on your chest and would fess up on his own terms.
2007-03-13 18:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by kriskabob 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is really sad.
If I has you,well I will talk with your dad and say how do you feel about.Tell him that he is hurting you, and he is going to hurt your mom if she finds out.
If you see him again cheating the talk with your mom/
If you don't want to talk directly with your father you can send him a not, and if you don't think he isn't going to stop cheating then talk with your mom.
2007-03-13 18:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to Dad first and make sure your belief is correct. If he gives you no satisfaction, tell him you will talk to Mother about it, but do give him time to do it as the situation could change once he knows you might tell his wife. Just do not create
a worse situation yourself.
I am so sorry this has happened to you.
2007-03-15 11:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by maybelline512 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am not sure, thats a hard postion to be in. Are you 100% sure he is? I think I would tell my mom if I new something like that was happening, but you also have to think, now this is going to sound bab, but would she want to know, on top of that to have her son tell her, thats already emberrsing situation to be going through but to know that your son had to tell you. Maybe if theres a way you could let her find out but not from you, not sure how but I dont know if i could just come out with it. You know that sometimes the people get mad at the ones who tell them something they dont want to hear. So just be careful.
2007-03-13 18:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by Key P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to my Dad first and give him the opportunity to tell my Mom - if he refused then I would tell her - chances are she probably has a pretty idea of what's going on - she may just need you to help her open her eyes. Good luck.
2007-03-13 18:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first you need to get proof of this before you confront him and tell your mother...like pictures or videotape of the affair.
How did you find out ?? If you have proof of this confront your dad with the evidence and tell him too tell your mom or you will give her the proff and tell her. Give him one chance to come clean though..after all hs is still your father.
2007-03-13 18:28:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how I found out.
In general I would have some very harsh and very choice words for my father. And he would have NO doubt that the apple did not roll very far from my Momma's tree.
Likewise if I found out my Mother was cheating on my daddy.
2007-03-13 18:26:57 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have a father/son relationship, which is more important. Anytime the son gets self-righteous about this may think he is protecting his mom. But he only knows one aspect, not the whole thing.
If your own moral compass tells you your father is wrong, mention it to him. But this is not your battle but a big can of worms.
2007-03-13 18:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋