My friend over a while has fallen into the wrong crowd. She has begun to start drinking and smoking and besides the fact that its her decision, it is hurting her old "true" friends that care about her. I confronted her and wrote her a letter and spoke with all of her old friends about it. Her old friends agree with me and said I am being a good friend talk to her about it. But when I talk to her she says that I have nothing to be worried about and so far I am the only one that has said anything. I am the only one that has the guts to say anything. I don't know where to go from here. I know everyone changes and wants to feel wanted and accepted but its there anything I can do that can make her realize how much it makes others hurt to see her this way?
2007-03-13 11:19:44 · 5 answers · asked by Brian P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i know this seems so horrible at the moment but something really bad was going on with a friend and there really wasnt anything i could do and so i told an adult. their parents totally confined them and got them out of the situation. she is doing so much more incredibly now and realizes that she was in a horrible situation and needed something drastic like this to really bring her back. she hated me so much and wouldnt talk to me when i told but now shes glad i did and thanks me for it cause even she knows that if she kept it up she wouldnt be alive at this point. if the parents cant do anything or theyre just not good parents at all then surround her with better people and just do anything to get the bottle or cigarrette out of their mouth any chance you get. the only person who can stop is them though... good luck!
2007-03-13 11:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by BooYa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I additionally went interior the path of the countless same issues you're dealing with with my only right pal in extreme college! I enjoyed her plenty, yet after attempting to talk along with her concerning to the path she grow to be picking, she chosen to no longer supply up. So at that factor I had to do what grow to be only right for me and that grow to be to end putting round her. It harm yet I knew that if i did no longer i could head down the incorrect direction too! that's been various years for the reason that then and that i'm chuffed that I made that determination, using fact she it nevertheless an addict and sells her physique to assist the habit! It hurts me to be certain her that way, yet you need to do what's suitable for you! I promise you will make friends down the line that will enhance you as a guy or woman and friendships which would be lasting ones! stable luck!
2016-09-30 21:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by kurihara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've told her that you're concerned about her and why you are. Now it's up to her. All you can do at this point is protect your own reputation by staying away from her. You are known by the company you keep and someone into being with a bad crowd and doing drugs is not a reputation you want to be tagged with.
2007-03-13 11:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to one of my friends once, and I can honestly say that you have done all you could for now. I know what it's like to talk to nothing but air when you're trying to reach the person you care about. It's sad to say, but just give her some time to realize her mistakes. As cliche as that sounds, she will come around in time. She knows you are there for her. Just make sure not to push too much; that happened to me, and we haven't spoken for three years.....I still try, but my friend won't listen to me, so I don't press the matter. It sounds like your heart is in the right place; have faith.
2007-03-13 11:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by rafafan612 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gather up a group of her frends and make a video of pictures of her and her frends B4 the smoking and then AFTER it too
2007-03-13 11:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by Christina. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋