How long did it take you to get over your divorce? How long did it take you to get to the point where you don't think about your ex all the time? Do you ever stop being sad? Do you regret it?
2007-03-13 11:18:18 · 16 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce takes a long time to get over. It is like any other hurt in our lives. The best thing to do is to get on with life and think about other things. "Time heals all wounds."
2007-03-13 11:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My divorce was more than 30 years ago. I still think of him every day with great sadness. We had hold of the American dream. Two great kids, a beautiful home, good jobs, respect in the community, friends, the white picket fence. We both remarried and had other children but I regret, not the divorce, but all the things that led up to it . None of them should ever have happened to anyone. I will never stop being sad for what was thrown away by a few terrible choices, but I don't regret the divorce because it was impossible to live together after the things that happened. I will always mourn the relationship I THOUGHT we had for over ten years.
2007-03-13 18:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to answer your questions in reverse order.
1. Do you regret it?
... very much so. I wish I could go back and fix some things, but that is impossible (take heed all, inspect your marriages, and fix damage as you find it).
2. Do you ever stop feeling sad?
Yes, but after a bit over a year, there are still moments where memories flood back in and cause some sadness. They are fewer and farther between, but I still have them. Mostly, I have memories that I cherish. It's easier, because my ex and I seem so different now (we seem like very different people), that it's not her I miss, but us at our best.
3. How long did it take ... don't think about your ex ... ?
I stopped thinking about her all the time after about three months, but it was easier for me because I left the area for a year (at about three month mark). It's gone from all the time, to a few times a day (at about the one year mark), to about once a day (16 months mark [now]).
4. How long did it take you to get over your divorce?
I'm not really over it. I'm much, much better, but I'm not over it. It's like the line from the old song, "There is always something there to remind me ..." We have grown children, so we have ties (not really tight ones, but still ties that will force us together some [weddings, births, etc...).
I am much better, but until I have someone to replace an empty spot, I think there will be some sadness. There may always be a little sadness. My marriage lasted 24 years, 17 of those were absolutely awesome!! It takes awhile to recover from being with someone every day of your life for 24 years. She was my best friend. I've lost a lot. I'm getting there, but I'm not there.
... hope this helped.
2007-03-13 18:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say it takes 2 years to get over a divorce... myself i would say this to be about right.
I have absolutely no regrets at all, i mourned for the loss of my family unit, but not for the man himself, i also felt pain and guilt and sadness, that my children wouldn't have what i had, 2 loving parents united together...
I am over 12 months divorced now, into the 4th year since separation, be kind to yourself, eat and sleep well, and in time you will be fine, it is a huge thing in anyones life, but be sured you are not alone. And time does heal all wounds...
2007-03-13 18:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by smileyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, it probably took me a few months. Yes, I stopped being sad eventually, there were a lot of things going on in my life - I picked up some new friends and new hobbies, and was enjoying my single life. No, I did not regret anything, it all went down the way it was meant to go down; his loss - I am now married to a great guy, and wouldn't trade it for anything.
2007-03-13 18:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me quite a while to get over that one, and I am not so sure that anyone ever truly gets over divorce. As time goes by, it is easier to deal with, life gets better, and life goes on. I was divorced for fourteen years before I decided to get married again. Not because I still loved him, was just leary of getting into the same situation again. Divorce is one of the the saddest things one can go through, there are so many things to deal with. It will get easier for you. Good luck!
2007-03-13 18:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About four years (to be able to trust men again)
Five minutes
I am not sad
No regret, the best thing I ever did.
True sadness is when your dad and you dog die of cancer within six weeks of each other, now, that took some time before I was not sad any more. Puts thing into perspective.
2007-03-13 18:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have some months until the divorce is granted and of course your living apart , because it wasn't working out together. I think at first even you are ready for a divorce , living alone again you'll find yourself lonely because your use to having them around and you have plenty of time before the final divorce to get use to being by yourself and eating and sleeping alone. It is according to the way they treated you while you were together if you are feeling sad and missing them.
But, if they were hell on wheels and mean to you, go out drinking and you know what goes with drinking, other women.
If they were good to you are slapped you around and treated you like dirt under their feet and felt like they were still single.
verbally and physically abused you. I never missed my marriage because I was married quite a few years , enough years to know I wanted no part of him anymore. I enjoyed being my own boss and liked being able to go where I wanted and in fact I just enjoyed the hell out of my divorce. Miss him , no way, think of him, just thank god he was gone.
2007-03-13 18:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
took me quite some time, but one day u just wake up and remember how badly they treated u, and that u never had a happy day really. yes u do stop being sad once u get a new life with a new person, it may feel strange at first, like your not suppose to be there, but that too will pass. yes there are days when i regret it, and days i thank god it happened.
2007-03-13 18:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was over it before the divorce was final.........and I don't regret it one bit; I single handedly (well that's not true, because it does take a village) raised two daughters.....with no help from the ex.
2007-03-13 18:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋