What are some good strategies or good advice for getting over your ex-fiance that I'm no long with??
2007-03-13 11:00:36 · 7 answers · asked by Elie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It takes time. There is no easy fix. It's not about preoccupying yourself with hobbies or finding another man to replace the hole. It really boils down to time. When the hurting is so minimal that it really doesn't affect you anymore, then you're ready to get into another relationship. Before that, you'll bring that burden into another relationship and that one will probably get ruined as well. But have hope, there are lots of good guys out there that would never leave you.
2007-03-13 11:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by sickblade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough time but you will make it through and be all the wiser for it. Best way to get over the ex is to have no contact - through phone, e-mails, in person, through another person, etc. Keep busy and focus on helping others and one day you will wake up and the ex won't be the first thing you think about and viola, you are on your way to healing.
If you should have contact with the ex - it just rips the scab off the wound and you have to start over.
Good luck. You will be okay!
2007-03-13 18:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be so happy you he's your ex-fiance and not your ex-husband!!! Rejoice in the fact you guys didn't go through with it, when obviously at least one of you thought it was the wrong thing to do. Then keep busy with your friends, work, hobbies.......before you know it you will wonder why you were ever with him in the first place!
2007-03-13 18:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Rediscover yourself (interests, hobbies, alone time)
2. Make new friends, be around good friends/family that allow you to feel whatever it is you are feeling at the time.
3. Make time to grieve
4. See a therapist to uncover any underlying issues you might have. They are good at allowing you to understand the situation.
5. Reinvent yourself, make yourself into the person you want others to see.
Unfortunately in time you will feel better. There is such a big lag time in terms of the heart catching up with the brain. Just figure out what it is you want in life and not settle for less. Relationships are hard, but not that hard. I believe things happen for a reason and I honestly believe you were meant to meet someone to make you happy. But its a time for healing now. Good luck
2007-03-13 18:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that now is a perfect time to go out and enjoy everything that you like to do....Spoil yourself and keep busy...and don't go looking for someone else...you don't need a rebound...just go out and have fun..you don't have to forget about your ex but just try not to dwell...you will be fine and it may not seem like it now but you will be just fine and one day find the perfect person...good luck and keep your head up!
2007-03-13 21:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by queenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out more and try new things..........a new hobbie is excellent for putting your mind in a relaxed state.............Feel good about the decision of the brake up..............never regret
2007-03-13 18:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by mrs. doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date someone else.
2007-03-13 18:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋