I have asked my wife not to do certain things like drink or go to bars but she has gone to a bar with a female friend and she has also drank a little and while driving with our kids and the drink was served by her famous friend. Not to mention, her friends have girls night out and certain type of men(gays) are aloud. Though I don't particularly believe gay life is right, I have some good friends that are and it really doesn't matter. I think that girls night should mean girls night out and no man should go period. I have lost the upmost respect and trust because my wife has not stood up to her friends to tell them that they are wrong about drinking all the time and going out. Or at least she should part from those people that pose such a problem to me. Am I wrong in thinking this?
2007-03-13 10:52:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you are absolutely right for thinking this way...(not on the gay thing) But having your children riding in a car with a person who has been drinking and driving is a horrible thing..What if she got in an accident when she has been drinking while the kids are in the car or she kills someone or is killed herself cause of drunk driving. You should sit her down and tell her that you don't want her taking the kids when she drinking and if she doesn't change her ways get a separation from her, take the kids and get her some consoling before you go back to her. If she continues to party with her friends and drink file for divorce and custody of your children....You need to protect them from her.
Onlt seperate if she doesn't wanna stop or get help with her drinking problem man.
I Hope I Could Help Man... Sorry you are going through this.
But you have to look out for your kids.
2007-03-13 11:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife's drinking is causing problems, and especially if she's drinking and driving with your children in the car, then you need to talk to her about it, and perhaps try to convince her to go to some kind of therapy if she's unable to give it up.
It's okay to tell her you think she has a drinking problem and try to work through it with her. However, you do not have the right to tell her where she can go and who she can spend time with. It is certainly none of your business whether gay men go on her girls' night out. (And I don't believe for a second you think it doesn't matter that your good friends are gay--otherwise you wouldn't have brought it up!)
In terms of trusting her, if she's promised you she won't go out with her friends, it's wrong of her to break that promise, but you shouldn't ask her to make that kind of promise in the first place.
2007-03-13 11:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by Liz M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My brother is dealing with something similar to this.
OK , I personally see it acceptable for a married woman to go out with the girls...on occasion....every few months or so. But not regularly. That's just me. Gay guys going....toughy...so many of the gay men I know personally will do women especially if there is drinking involved...they may choose men but when you break it all down they are still men and driven the same sexual way that straight men are. This all comes down to whether you are willing to trust her or not.
If my husband was drinking with MY kids and drove....all hell would bust loose. That is so totally and completely unacceptable. For one it is against the law for obvious reasons and TWO, who the hell does she think she is to take their lives into her own hands like that. Sounds to me like she may have a serious drinking problem...she may the mother of the children but that is ridiculous,
The red flag in your question ....she had drank and drive with the kids in the car....I am not kidding you...to me that is certainly a deal breaker. These children depend on their parents to take care of them....since she can't make proper decisions...it is completely up to you. I am not kidding, my husband would be out of the house if I ever found something like this out. It is all up to you to face this woman and lay down the law. If she wants to drink and party she needs to leave the kids out of it. It may be time for some rehab.
I wish you luck and I know this must be hard for you...you need to what is right for your children!!!
2007-03-13 11:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you do not want your wife to have a life of her own, I do agree that she shouldn't be drinking and driving, nor drink and drive with the kids, as for who goes along that is up to them, I would imagine they do not want any macho attitudes on girls night out,And that is what you have, it isn't all about you and what you want, it should be about us and what is best for us. so sit down and talk to your wife, and perhaps volunteer to be designated driver,
2007-03-13 11:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her realise that she's not single anymore so try to act like a responsible person, loving mother and commited wife. how could she put her kids life in danger? Put some sense in her mind ,some God's fear and explain a bit the consequences if she doesn't stop and you both have to go your own ways .......................
2007-03-13 11:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by Broken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is married and a mother she need to be spending time with you and your children. this is not a good example of a mother to her children. you should be mad but you should blame yourself because when this started you should have stop it then. Friend are not as important as her marriage.
I bet none of her friend is married. when her marriage is broken up she is going to left without any body.
2007-03-13 12:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by victory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋