I had a miscarriage last year after we had told people and I don't want to go through that again. How far along should I be before we tell anyone? I am currently almost 6 weeks along and we have our first doctor visit on Friday.
2007-03-13 10:43:18 · 19 answers · asked by echelon 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thank you all for answering. We haven't yet told anyone, not even our parents. This is so hard to keep quiet about, but after losing it last year you can understand waiting. I have to put this to a vote, since they are all great answers. And thanks to all the congrats and good lucks!
2007-03-14 04:02:48 · update #1
Most women wait till they are into their 2nd trimester when the risk of miscarriage decrease 65%.
2007-03-13 10:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I told people I was close to right away(like 5 weeks). People like my mom and close friends etc. I still havent told people at work yet(Im about 11 weeks now) except for one person. Im waiting until after my next appt(fri.) to let the good news flow with the rest of them cuz I want to hear the heartbeat just to ease my concerns.
Ive never experienced a miscarriage but I would think that I would want to tell at least my closest family members or friends so that if something were to happen I would have someone to lean against to get through such a hard time that would be. I couldnt do it all alone, I would need support.
So I would say you have to do what you feel comfortable with.
Best of luck to you in this pregnancy!!!!!!
2007-03-13 12:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by pyxiegyrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait till 3 months than if u miscarried before just to be on the safer side
but its up to u.. if u wanna tell ur best friend or parents or someone close
go ahead
but if ur nervous about loosing the baby again maybe wait till 3 months or a little after
cuz ur chances of miscarriage go down after ur 3rd month
good luck and congrads
2007-03-13 11:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me 5 yrs ago. I had just found out I was 5 weeks pregnant. I called everyone that I knew. Less than a week later, I miscarried and I had to recall everyone. It was terrible. After taking a year off to regain my composure, I tried again and was pregnant in no time. I waited until I entered my second trimester before I told anyone. It really is emotionally upsetting to go through that. Hope that helps you. Congrats!!
2007-03-13 10:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 6 weeks when I found out and told everyone I knew. I figured even if I did have a miscarriage I would need their support anyway, so we went ahead and told people. Only you can decide when it's right to tell people you're pregnant, if you feel more comfortable waiting then you should :) Good luck to you!
2007-03-13 10:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by FirefighterWife 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
About 3 months along is good. Some people tell too early and most miscarriges happen within the first trimester. Wait until the 3rd month before telling.
2007-03-13 10:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until YOU and your mate are comfortable telling people; you're the one that matters, after all. Of course, people may suspect something earlier than that; many people can spot a pregnant woman by subtle changes in her body even before she's obviously "showing." If you have to go to the doctor or dentist, be SURE to tell them that you are pregnant, as you obviously don't want anything to be done to endanger your baby.
2007-03-13 10:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first trimester is the highest risk for miscarriage. Because your dates might be off by a couple of weeks without realizing it, wait until you are two weeks into your fourth month (second trimester) before advertising.
2007-03-13 10:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by mocelled2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ill be 7 weeks tomorrow and i havent told anyone except my parents and his parents. Its all up to u but i would wait until your first trimester is over, because your chance of a miscarriage goes down a lot!
sorry to hear what happened
congrats and good luck
2007-03-13 10:48:01 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people dont tell anyone until after the first trimester. Something could happen (hopefully it wont) but if it does you don't want to have told a bunch of people and deal with their looks of sadness and you having to explain it to everyone while you are grieving.
Now with some people they don't mind telling everyone because they welcome the support.
Everyone is different so do what feels right.
Congratulations!!!!!!
2007-03-13 10:55:14 · answer #10 · answered by Sunflower 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until 13 weeks pregnant, or if you hear the heartbeat before that then you could probably spill the beans sooner because after you hear it, your risk of miscarriage drops dramatically.Good luck!!
2007-03-13 10:47:58 · answer #11 · answered by ♥It's a boy♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋