when a girl after her marriage is told by her husband that he cant love her , that he cant have any obligation with her , that he is deliberately avoiding any responsibilities that a husband should have , what will be her response as a girl ? , should she consider that husband as her rival ? or should she try to win his love ?
2007-03-13 10:37:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tr to win his love. but do not sacrifice yourself for him. Separation be the last resort. thats if you are married.
2007-03-13 17:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by hassanchris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know! it's the worse a girl can go through after marriage. She can wait n try to win over him for about an year or so or till she can hold him. Still if it doesn't out then quit from his life n she must look for a person who will really love her. Pregnancy at this time should be avoided.
2007-03-13 18:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by Smile- conquers the world 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to ask then why did you marry me? Sounds like he wants someone to cook dinner and keep house, while he sleeps around. Since you went through the marriage i would probably at least try counseling, he'd more than likely refuse and then i would just as quickly get those moving papers, get a divorce and make sure he paid me for all the time he wasted. Dont stay in a marriage that you're going to be miserable in, and you shouldn't have to win his love, he married you that's supposed to be the time honored sign for showing you that you already won his love. why waste your time time loving someone who admitted he won't love you. you deserve better regardless of the circumstances that gt you into this marriage. he's a loser leave him.
2007-03-13 17:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt consider either....I would consider him not to be my husband....maybe he is on paper, but certainly, if he has said all those things, he certainly is no husbands bootlace. I wouldnt even consider trying to win his love...he has made it quite clear where he stands........everything is about him. If you dont give him the big heave ho now, you are going to be in for one hell of a time.....get out while your self esteem is a little in tact because with a man like that around who claims to be your husband, with time, you will have nothing left.....get out now.....find a man who trully does want the responsibilities of marriage.....he shouldnt have got married....he decieved you....he tricked you into marrying him. How horrible to tell you all these things after marriage....Get rid of him for your own sanity.
2007-03-13 17:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't consider anything about him. Why try to win the affection of someone that doesn't want to be with you? It will only end up leading to a lot of hurt feelings and a slap to your self-esteem and sense of self. If you are just committed to being married go about enjoying separate lives. If you aren't committed then you both should seek out people that at least stand a chance of making you happy.
2007-03-13 18:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is weird. What happenend to love, honor and cherish? Did this guy not understand the words he was SUPPOSED to have said and MEANT? I would get the annulment if this is a recent marriage. It sounds like he has no commitment toward you. He sounds like he is 18 or 19, not a mature man, a husband.
2007-03-13 18:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it worth trying to win his love? Marriage vows are sacred...too many take them so lightly. Many people get married with the attitude if it dosen't work I can always get a divorce. Your better than that. There is someone out there for you. If this relationship can't be salvaged get out!! Life is too short don't waste time being miserable & unhappy! Good Luck!
2007-03-13 17:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by !Sweetie! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is horrible. Those are things he should have said before, "I do." He totally mislead her (you?) and now wants to play some head game. What a self-centered, little boy he's turned out to be. But ... the die is cast. Everything that can be tried needs to be tried before she declares the horse dead (as in "beating a dead horse"). I recommend that she drag him into counseling. If he won't go to a therapist, then maybe he'd be open to going to a pastor. He may not want his dirty laundry aired to a pastor, but he should have thought of that before he started acting three years old. If he won't go, then she should go alone and learn how to best cope with the situation.
What an @$$, this guy!
2007-03-13 17:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her response should be that if he cannot own up to the responsibilities that he vowed to on their wedding day, then he should remove himself from the situation. The girl should be able to keep the assets that they had together because he is the one who decided that he cannot have any obligation. He sounds like someone who should be kicked to the curb.
2007-03-13 17:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a weird question... i assume your talking about an arranged marriage here?? Well it takes both of you to work it out but personally i think you should get out if you can, you will just end up leading a sad life, where you will always think what if i had found real love?? there is nothing in this world better than love
2007-03-13 17:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by prince14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to test the wife how much she would do for the husband, life is not drama or fairy tales, most love relationship is easy to tumble and is yet vunerable. Its hard to buid up a relationship, but its easy tumble it.
to respond to your question, she wouldn't treat him as rival, if she acted like that, that is becuase she is deeply hurt. should she try to win his love? NO!!! if someone is so careless to hurt her like that, it's not worth her to do anything more.
2007-03-14 04:56:10 · answer #11 · answered by Caring Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋