My friend (my husband's brothers wife) demanded I have a baby shower among other things which I did not want as I do not have time for and she has organised it to be held at my house. I will be 8 months pregnant when this happens in a couple of weeks. She is also telling everybody that I have demanded this off her, I am stressing her out and I have become deranged. How do I deal with this situation without involving her husband or my husband's family full stop??? If I cancel, it will create a bigger problem.
2007-03-13 10:27:25 · 5 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you cancel, then she's going to say you're "ungrateful" for all the work she's put into it blah, blah, blah. I wouldn't cancel either. What you have to do with difficult personalities is to choose words carefully(my sis in-law is like this!). Tell her something like, " I don't want to be the cause of any further stress for you, so if you want to cancel this, I understand." Of course you and I both know she is the cause of her own drama...but put it on her. If she says okay...then great! If she plays the martyr and says let's go through with it, then you're just going to have to put a happy face for the day and then disengage with her after the shower. She's bad-mouthing you now, which means 1)she's done it before and 2)she'll do it again. Nothing much you can do about that except prove her exceptionally wrong among common family and turn the other cheek. Sorry...but this is the family you sort-of married!!! You cannot win with a personality like this, so I suggest to not even try....disengage later-that's your only hope! I know it sounds passive-aggressive, but I've found it to be the only way to NOT play down on their level...she would just love that! Good luck!
2007-03-13 11:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by emrobs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need any more stress while your pregnant, so just let it happen. The truth will come out when it needs to. And at the shower it would help if you announced to everyone it was nice of her to offer to do teh babyshower for you. Good luck!
2007-03-13 17:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by scandalousxsgv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her :) If you didn't want a baby shower then no one can force you to go to it - just explain that it wasn't your idea and if were up to you, you wouldn't be having one. Pregnancy gives you a pass to say whatever you feel and if you don't like what she's doing, tell her! Good luck!
2007-03-13 17:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by FirefighterWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell everyone that the baby shower is cancelled and tell her u do not want one and go out somewhere like shopping...tell her straight up,,,what a *****..
2007-03-13 17:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what u will need to do is just tell yout brother that i dont want to baby shower
2007-03-13 17:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by saad1224 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋